HELP..i'm divorced as of feb, I have sole physical and joint legal custody. My ex wants me to leave hawaii, but wants a payoff or else I'll never get to leave. He has been fired from his high paying job, lives with his parents, is an alcoholic, and is using cocaine. He doesn't see the kids often, about 6 days a month. He doesn't phone, and the kids don't really speak about him that often. He follows me, and has broken into my car and house. He does pay child support, but has already filed a motion to significantly reduce it. His brother is alienated from him because he told his his behavior is vindictive and childish. I was a stay home mom, have my real estate license, get zero help from him wiht childcare, and am looking for a job with benefits. I'm sure my opportunies are greater in California, and look forward to living without harassment. My ex will play dirty. I know it is better to have a job on the mainland, and I've tried. It is difficult to do so from Hawaii. Also, he will not take the kids so I can go to the mainland, and will not give permission for me to take the kids. Suggestions on how to proceed??