My 4 year old is getting emotionally affected

[traceyanne]

My 4 year old stays at her dads every second week end, has been since she was 15 months old. Is there a law for an age for the child to stay away. Being only 4 is he only allowed visits not weekend stays. Also his girlfriend whos the mother to his son has been butting her nose in. Easter just gone she tried to run me over in her car while i was tryin to exchange our daughter lucky for me my daughter was no there but i ended in a fight with her, we have been to mediation and that went out the window because he lied and never went throu with the agreement, when we agree for my daughter to come home and doesn't bring her back? I know i need to go to court but i need some help to understand what im getting myself into? She crys at night saying her dad is mean to her and Nae is GF is mean coz she hits me..When i comfront them they say shes a talker and likes to make up stories? please what do i do my poor daughter is so confused and i dont want him to have as much access to her anymore?

 

[jacksgal]

If the GF is hitting your child contact CPS

 

[Duranie]

Dad is entitled to visits. Most NCP are on an every other weekend schedule with overnights. There is no minimum age and it is perfectly reasonable that a 4 yr old or even younger is on overnights. You need to change your stance that Dad has any less rights than you.

Is there a custody or visititation agreement? If his girlfriend tried to run you over did you press charges? You can try going back to court and limiting access to dads girlfriend but likely not Dad. You need to see an attorney. It is probably not appropriate for dad's GF to discipline the child but probably not illegal. If you call CPS you need proof that the child is being abused or neglected.

 

[traceyanne]

well everytime i ask they say no but my daughter can tell me when and where she gets hit..we had an agreement 1 year ago now and he never went throu with it it was all a lie to just get out of there, her father doesn't listen to me or anyone only his GF, shes the one that will ring me and talk to me about my daughter not her father its starting to get frustrating! i think court is the best bet i tried everything else thanks )

 

[Duranie]

go back to court and stop communicating with the girlfriend. Tell her this is between you and the father.

 

[seffysmiles]

went/ going through same thing. First thing take a deep breath. Next get a counselor for your child. I had the Order of Protection. It was thrown out because my daughter didn't talk to a counselor about it. She is finally in therapy now. Don't wait, get her in. If she is telling you everything that's fine but it won't stand up in court. Let her tell someone who can stand up in court. If she comes home with marks take her to the doctor straight away. I've been in your shoes and still am. Good luck.