Mother in desparate need of help

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I am a 25 year old female.I have three children.I am trying to divorce there father.I was in a battered womens shelter for 2 to 2 1/2 months.
My Husband some how talked me into moving into his ex wifes house with them because i had no where to go.So i did.That was a mistake.I started danceing to put money in the house to keep a roof over my childrens heads.For one my husband is trying to hold that against me.One day I was very tired and he started talking about the fact that I am wore out and mabe he should take the kids to his moms.Well he wound up moving there and taking my kids with him..Since then i have seen my children mabe three times.I am not allowed in his eyes to bring my children to my house because I live with my boyfriend.He is now sying I can not have my children for holloween.He thinks he is in control when it comes down to them.The only reason why i have not yet went to pick them up is because they are in school and he would not willingly give me there documents so i can put them in school where i live.
I dont think that he is fit to father them without someone there.And he is keeping them from me.The one time he let me have them on my own he left me there at my moms with no car seats and My oldest daughter had a head full of lice her head was scabbed badly.He had stated the weekend before that that she had head lice.And thats why i couldnt have them that weekend then turned around and sent her to me with head lice.He has tryed to make it seem like I am not being a good mother not putting enough effort in but the truth is I have done everything he has asked except for go back to him..He is useing my children against me.
My number one quetion is how can I get my children back? Without haveing to dish out money for a lawyer..And would it be legal for me to just go pick them up.I am not sure how to deal with this but these are my children and I feel they are getting hurt by not haveing mommy.I also believe that he is telling me I can not have them then telling them mommy didnt want to come..My children are 5,3,2 years old what do i do.....Please help.
 
First of all you need to get your life in order. Find a different career other than dancing, and ditch the boyfriend until you are divorced. Until a court says otherwise, both of you have rights to the kids. If you want to file for divorce you are going to have to see an attorney or call legal aid for help. You had 3 kids with this man, he is obviously a fit father. Many states are giving joint custody anyways. Living with your boyfriend is going to work against you, especially since him being there possibly compromises the childrens safety.

Were you actually a victim of domestic violence and do you have proof? If so you can ask them if they can refer you to legal help. Be prepared though. Dad has rights so you 2 are going to have to work something out.
 
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