I have posted before when me and my husband were first having problems and noone replied. Problems have now escalated though.... and its very confusing. Here goes:
Me and my husband got married on his 2 week leave in July. He is currently in the Army, serving in Iraq. On Dec. 5, I recieved an email from a mail address that was hisname/unit@yahoo.com. Now, admittedly, I had never seen this address before and automaticly assumed that it was his. In the email, it said that he had a girlfriend, (his ex) over there from his unit and that he'd had one almost the whole time he had been there. also said that he couldnt file for divorce there, but would do it as soon as he got home. Well, took matters into my own hands and went and got the papers the very next day. Then I talked to him, and he had no idea about the email.... doesnt know where it came from. said he has never cheated on me and that he wanted to make things work. By now, I was doubting where it came from too ,but also if i still wanted to be with him anyways, and if i even loved him in the first place.... and he was having the same doubts he said. Our marriage was ver rushed, we maybe dated a total of 3 monthes. So for the next few weeks I went back and forth with whether I wanted to be married to him. Finally decided I did, and wrote him, told him I wasnt sending divorce papers, we were gonna work this out when he got home.... trying to save my brand new marriage. He told me no, he didnt want to work it out and that I was being selfish, then included in that email that while the first email wasnt him, and wasnt true... he and his ex from his unit did spend christmas day together then added "... oh, in case your wondering , we did have sex."
Now, I know adultry is a big thing in the military. and he gets paid extra for being married. but this whole time he has sent me only $300. Before he left I was living with roomates, and after I got an apt. by myself, now, it did have a higher price, but any one bedroom does, especially when you arent splitting between people, besides, who lives with roomated when they are married. Now, when you get marrried in the military, you get paid more and that is supposed to go to your family right? and housing? HE states the the money he makes more now is just extra money for himself. That it is my fault that I moved into a more expensive place, that I work and though I may need to cut back on luxuries I can do it myself, but isnt your husband supposed to help his wife? He hasnt helped out a dime since he went back overseas on Aug. 4th? Could I somehow get him to help me out? Would that involve going to his commander and such? PLease rply and dont just read......
Me and my husband got married on his 2 week leave in July. He is currently in the Army, serving in Iraq. On Dec. 5, I recieved an email from a mail address that was hisname/unit@yahoo.com. Now, admittedly, I had never seen this address before and automaticly assumed that it was his. In the email, it said that he had a girlfriend, (his ex) over there from his unit and that he'd had one almost the whole time he had been there. also said that he couldnt file for divorce there, but would do it as soon as he got home. Well, took matters into my own hands and went and got the papers the very next day. Then I talked to him, and he had no idea about the email.... doesnt know where it came from. said he has never cheated on me and that he wanted to make things work. By now, I was doubting where it came from too ,but also if i still wanted to be with him anyways, and if i even loved him in the first place.... and he was having the same doubts he said. Our marriage was ver rushed, we maybe dated a total of 3 monthes. So for the next few weeks I went back and forth with whether I wanted to be married to him. Finally decided I did, and wrote him, told him I wasnt sending divorce papers, we were gonna work this out when he got home.... trying to save my brand new marriage. He told me no, he didnt want to work it out and that I was being selfish, then included in that email that while the first email wasnt him, and wasnt true... he and his ex from his unit did spend christmas day together then added "... oh, in case your wondering , we did have sex."
Now, I know adultry is a big thing in the military. and he gets paid extra for being married. but this whole time he has sent me only $300. Before he left I was living with roomates, and after I got an apt. by myself, now, it did have a higher price, but any one bedroom does, especially when you arent splitting between people, besides, who lives with roomated when they are married. Now, when you get marrried in the military, you get paid more and that is supposed to go to your family right? and housing? HE states the the money he makes more now is just extra money for himself. That it is my fault that I moved into a more expensive place, that I work and though I may need to cut back on luxuries I can do it myself, but isnt your husband supposed to help his wife? He hasnt helped out a dime since he went back overseas on Aug. 4th? Could I somehow get him to help me out? Would that involve going to his commander and such? PLease rply and dont just read......
