My ex-husband does not believe our JPA applies to him when it comes to following the visitation guidelines. We have joint custody and I am the custodial parent. He can visit the kids (4 of them, but rarely sees the oldest) on Tuesday with every other weekend as overnights. He has been increasingly cancelling his time which concerns me. I schedule myself to work (nurse) during my weekends they are not with me. So I have not been able to fufill my shifts lately. I made an appointment with a mediator we have used in the past, but he states this is not acceptable. He would like to find one himself. We have established a relationship with this woman and don't even know about the one that was assigned in our decree. I don't even know why one was assigned to begin with. My question is..... what if he continues to rebuff mediation? Wouldn't it make sense to see the same one? Should I just contact my attorney and be done with it? We have visitation and financial issues to iron out. Our decree states we must try mediation first. Do we have to? Why is it that I would be in contempt if I did not allow him to see the kids, but he can cancel anytime?