The father (we were not married and paternity has been established) of my 7 month old daughter has stated that he wants nothing to do with us- and has stated that since I was 5 weeks pregnant (He actually begged me to terminate, which I had done once before for him, which I refused to do). He even changed his address and phone number, and ignores emails so I couldn't get a hold of him. I filed for custody and child support because while I can make ends meet, I just couldn't afford daycare while I work.
Long story short, I'd rather get one big lump sum payment then keep dragging him to court every month. And if so- are there limits opposed to how it's used? Basically, I want to pay off my house and car (I owe 92K total). That would give me $800 a month (which is $400 over what I would get in support) to spend on my daughter- daycare, diapers whatever. It would be win-win for both of us. I'd have money every month (instead of a mortgage), I wouldn't have to drag him to court, and he wouldn't have to worry about support increases or being a part of our lives.
I would not stop him from having visitation if he should want it, but I'm not seeking it either.
Long story short, I'd rather get one big lump sum payment then keep dragging him to court every month. And if so- are there limits opposed to how it's used? Basically, I want to pay off my house and car (I owe 92K total). That would give me $800 a month (which is $400 over what I would get in support) to spend on my daughter- daycare, diapers whatever. It would be win-win for both of us. I'd have money every month (instead of a mortgage), I wouldn't have to drag him to court, and he wouldn't have to worry about support increases or being a part of our lives.
I would not stop him from having visitation if he should want it, but I'm not seeking it either.
