Looking for a way to change my custody WITHOUT parental consent

[brokentornwingz]

Hi, I'm 17 years old and I live in Pennsylvania. My family at home is in bad condition. I have depression, so this worses as every day goes by in this house. Almost every second of every day (excluding sleep time) people are constantly yelling at each other here. My parents are always fighting and taking out their anger on us by yelling. My mom drinks a lot and about 2 weeks ago drove drunk with my 19 year old sister and me in the car. The plan was for me to drive, but I guess she changed her mind. Anyways, my father and brother have anger issues. My brother is constantly having fits where he freaks out and slams stuff around. The other night he slammed the computer moniter down because the cord wouldn't go in. When he picked it back up, the screen was busted. I went to tell my mom and she said it was my fault because I'm "such a bitch all the time". Her words. My brother agreed. I usually mind my own business so I was shocked. I cried for about an hour after that happened. Sure, I yell as much as any normal person, but I don't think of myself as being a bitch to anyone and I surely didn't do anything for him to freak out like that! Most of the time, mom isn't that bad. When dad comes home, that's when she's mean. She just doesn't want to get yelled at by him so she takes his side. It's pretty bad when I can't wait for my father to leave for another trip (he's a truck driver) every time he comes home. I love them, don't get me wrong, but I can't stand my surroundings any longer. So basically, they wouldn't let their little slave as I call myself by their standards (because I'm always doing stuff for them such as more recently cleaning out the huge garage, scraping priming and painting a trailer, and working on scraping priming and painting a garage, plus always working around the house and mowing the lawn and such) go. I highly doubt they'd sign any papers. My best friend's parents are willing to take me. So my question to all of you is, how can I make my parents sign custody papers to have her parents take custody of me?

 

[jharris352]

My friend, I'm sorry that you are in that situation. AL-ANON, you need to go. There is no doubt years of issues built up in you. I'll be honest with you, other than that I'm almost afraid to give you advice. There are several things you can do, the question is should you do them and what are the collateral ramifications of doing them. Do you have any younger siblings? Your brother maybe?

You see, no matter what I tell you to do, and there are several ways to do this, you will adversely affect your younger siblings if you have any. If you are the youngest, I'll tell you what to do in a heartbeat. I'm sorry man, you shouldn't have to deal with that.

Normal people don't have to yell my friend. Please find and go to Al-anon.

 

[brokentornwingz]

I have an older sister that lives with her boyfriend and a younger brother, but he wouldn't car because I'd see him at school and we were never really close.

 

[jharris352]

Get the paperwork together and present it to your Mom and Dad. You are almost 18 anyway. Tell them if they don't sign it you are going to make a referral to CPS. Now I warn you, actually making a referral to CPS will make all hell break lose and you and your younger sibling could end up in a foster home. But it sounds like all hell is already lose in your family.

If that doesn't work: Make the referral to CPS.

 

[brokentornwingz]

where do I get the custody paperwork?

 

[jharris352]

If you go to the Department of Family and children in your state, they should have some forms for temporary transfer of custody. It won't be permanent, but your parents don't sound like the type to come get you anyway. You only have less than a year to go anyway and you will be an adult.