I recently broke things off with my boyfriend of only a couple of months, primarily due to the fact that he started exhibiting strong signs of possesiveness that really made me uncomfortable, among other things. I had politely informed him, mostly at his request, that we could still "just be friends". This seemed to be fine until, hence, I started dating a new guy I went to school with, which happened to be everything that I have ever wanted in a man, and the ex became totally, well, just plain psycho for lack of a better word...threatening phone calls, uninvited, drunken visits pounding at the front door in the middle of the night, intimidating messages, stalking my every move...you name it. The police were involved numerous times, and he was warned to stay away. To my suprise, the next thing I get is a "bill" from him for what he claims is the amount of money that he spent on me/us in the relatively short time we were together! I couldn't believe what I was seeing! I'm talking for things like dinners, movies, concert tickets, flowers,small trips; money we spent on bills, home improvement (his home)...all of which were things charged on his credit card(this is his supposed evidence). In short, he thought that he could buy me, and when that didn't turn out to be the case, he wants "fully" reimbursed from me for even the most trivial things, including items that were gifts, and things I offered to pay for, but was told NUMEROUS times by him "not to worry about" "You don't have to pay me for that". The real stunt he is trying to pull here is utilizing the fact that there was a second card he gave to me to this same charge account (this is not a joint account) that he gave to me to use/carry, which we ended up useing to make the purchase of all those things due to the fact that he kept his card stored away at his home all of the time...so it would look as if I made all of the charges, when in reality it was always him making the purchases with me present (e.g. dinners, movies, etc.), or he made the purchases on the account on his own. I told him that this was ridiculous, as I spent a lot of money on him for many different things with cash money of my own during the relationship, as everone unaccountably spends money on each other in a relationship!!! He is simply being trivial, obsessive, spiteful, attempting to maintain/exert control over me, and attempting to hurt me any way he can at this point by actually FILING SUIT against me for a judgement amounting to a total of almost $8,000.00 for money spent during our relationship!!!! This is absolutelty ABSURD. The worst part is that he is submitting to the court as evidence his credit card statement that shows charges and HUGE cash advances of all kinds that he has made that I know nothing about!!! The most that was actually spent on "us" is $3,000.00. He has tried giving me alll kinds of things, money, etc. and I have excepted NONE of it, yet he shows these items as amounts I now "owe" him as well. I have been advised that it is his word against mine when this goes to court, and I will likely have to pay for half of whatever he claims I owe, due to this?! Even if he is lying!!! How do I defend myself against this nut-case? Worse yet, he has hired the most notoriously aggressive attorney in the area, and he plays cards weekly with the judge/magistrate scheduled to hear this case!!! What do I do?
Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated.
Thank you.
Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated.
Thank you.