kids were taken

[famof5]

my kids were taken from me by dcfs because of my violent relationship with my husband, but before they came out my husband had already moved out so i thought i was doing the right thing for my kids but they took them anyway i'm lost i dont know what to do i am a good mom and this should not be happening what do i do?

 

[Duranie]

Have you filed for divorce? Do that. If you have taken this man back before, DFS is obviously concerned. I would be filing for divorce and a restraining order. Where is their Dad? Who has the kids now?

 

[jharris352]

Get an attorney and do not talk to DFACS. They are not on your side or the kid's sides.

 

[famof5]

the kids are his i have not filed for divorce or a restraining order because he is no longer in the home and does not attempt to come here unless i ask him to babysit so i can go to work. the state gave the kids to my mom which is not good for them they need to be home with me

 

[BayState]

the kids are his i have not filed for divorce or a restraining order because he is no longer in the home and does not attempt to come here unless i ask him to babysit so i can go to work. the state gave the kids to my mom which is not good for them they need to be home with me

So...You were in a violent relationship with a man. Exposed your children to violence. Kicked out this violent man but still allow him to be alone with the children?? No wonder you lost custody.

 

[Duranie]

It sounds like the kids are exposed to violence, no wonder why DCFS took them away. As long as you continue a relationship with him and not divorce him, expect problems. Your kids should come first. Has DCFS given you a case plan? If I were you I would be filing for divorce, and work on your parenting plan DCFS is going to give you. Do you have a court date? how about an attorney?

 

[famof5]

do you know what its like to have no family? He is the only person i have ever had i need to work so i am not on welfare for the rest of my life. I've dealt with alot of crap in my life but my kids are always taken care of. trying living my life before you judge me.

 

[BayState]

do you know what its like to have no family? He is the only person i have ever had i need to work so i am not on welfare for the rest of my life. I've dealt with alot of crap in my life but my kids are always taken care of. trying living my life before you judge me.

I have "lived your life". Your FIRST responsibility is to protect your children. Period. There are agencies to help you with child care and dealing with the ramifications of abuse. DCF will help you get your act together so that your children are not in danger or exposed to the psychological ramifications of abuse.

 

[Duranie]

The kids are not being taken care of if they are exposed to violence. Stop the cycle now.