I work in NYC, and reside in upstate NY. I believe the jurisdiction might be NYC because I receive the emails on my work account.
During the last year, I have received over 200 emails from my first husband. I have asked him several times to contact me only to make handover arrangements, which he has ignored. Most of these emails contain allegations about my care our daughter, or accusations. He was violent during our marriage and I have sole custody of our daughter.
Recently, the volume and tone of the emails was creating so much stress that I requested him to contact my husband instead. He continues to contact me, even though my husband now responds when needed.
The distress this creates is indescribable. I am happily remarried with three younger children. This impacts our entire family.
I understand that with cyberstalking, there must be context and multiple strands of bullying or harassment, so I've listed below *some* the rest of what is going on.
He calls my parents to threaten them. In March he called them to threaten to send the FBI after me, because his answering machine was broken so he was not aware that my daughter had been making calls to him as required by our custody order while we were on our family vacation.
He tells our daughter things like, "I'm going to put your mommy in jail".
He follows and monitors my online activity. For example, he included in his court paperwork published articles that have appeared in local forums, such as the CEC (Charismatic Episcopal Church) website and the local paper's website. As he is based in the UK, these aren't "local" sites for him and he has no reason to go to them barring to look for me.
Is this cyberstalking, and if it is, what do I do about it? Is this a civil case (like a harassment case) or is this a criminal case?
During the last year, I have received over 200 emails from my first husband. I have asked him several times to contact me only to make handover arrangements, which he has ignored. Most of these emails contain allegations about my care our daughter, or accusations. He was violent during our marriage and I have sole custody of our daughter.
Recently, the volume and tone of the emails was creating so much stress that I requested him to contact my husband instead. He continues to contact me, even though my husband now responds when needed.
The distress this creates is indescribable. I am happily remarried with three younger children. This impacts our entire family.
I understand that with cyberstalking, there must be context and multiple strands of bullying or harassment, so I've listed below *some* the rest of what is going on.
He calls my parents to threaten them. In March he called them to threaten to send the FBI after me, because his answering machine was broken so he was not aware that my daughter had been making calls to him as required by our custody order while we were on our family vacation.
He tells our daughter things like, "I'm going to put your mommy in jail".
He follows and monitors my online activity. For example, he included in his court paperwork published articles that have appeared in local forums, such as the CEC (Charismatic Episcopal Church) website and the local paper's website. As he is based in the UK, these aren't "local" sites for him and he has no reason to go to them barring to look for me.
Is this cyberstalking, and if it is, what do I do about it? Is this a civil case (like a harassment case) or is this a criminal case?
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