My boyfriend is having problems with his wife. They have been separated for almost 4 years, but have not done the divorce yet. I have been living with him for 2 years. They have 2 kids together. He's been paying her 400 dollars a month in support, an amount they agreed on.
A few months ago her boyfriend (who is on parole and living with her and the kids) hit her. The police arrested him, I think for VOP. DCF was called out and we told them everything that had been going on. Apprarently they didn't see a problem, because she still has the kids. We think she is unfit. We don't want the kids with her. They stay in contact with her boyfriend. She takes the kids to the jail to see him. They would hide him in the paneling in the kids room. Mom and boyfriend were doing drugs in the house. And she told DCF that when he gets out, he's moving back in. We don't want the kids anywhere near him. We think she's teaching the kids (both girls) that it's ok for a guy to hit, and it's ok to lie to the cops.
On top of all that, the kids are always dirty when they come from her house. She doesn't make them shower. They wear clothes that don't fit, or that are dirty. The only time the house gets clean, is when the kids do it. They don't have to do their homework. They're making c's, d's, very close to f's. There are no rules at her house, no bedtimes.
Most recently, one of the kids was sent home from school Tue because of lice. The kid came to our house Fri evening and somehow it came out that she had not been treated yet. The school won't let them come back until they are clear. She was out of school for a whole week because of this. Mom doesn't work.
She's now mad and wants to "officially" start receiving child support. So we get papers the other day. Child support on these two kids is around $1000 a month. We can't do that. And we have serious issues with paying that kind of money for the kids to NOT be taken care of.
What's our next step? We're looking for any kind of advice. Thank you.
A few months ago her boyfriend (who is on parole and living with her and the kids) hit her. The police arrested him, I think for VOP. DCF was called out and we told them everything that had been going on. Apprarently they didn't see a problem, because she still has the kids. We think she is unfit. We don't want the kids with her. They stay in contact with her boyfriend. She takes the kids to the jail to see him. They would hide him in the paneling in the kids room. Mom and boyfriend were doing drugs in the house. And she told DCF that when he gets out, he's moving back in. We don't want the kids anywhere near him. We think she's teaching the kids (both girls) that it's ok for a guy to hit, and it's ok to lie to the cops.
On top of all that, the kids are always dirty when they come from her house. She doesn't make them shower. They wear clothes that don't fit, or that are dirty. The only time the house gets clean, is when the kids do it. They don't have to do their homework. They're making c's, d's, very close to f's. There are no rules at her house, no bedtimes.
Most recently, one of the kids was sent home from school Tue because of lice. The kid came to our house Fri evening and somehow it came out that she had not been treated yet. The school won't let them come back until they are clear. She was out of school for a whole week because of this. Mom doesn't work.
She's now mad and wants to "officially" start receiving child support. So we get papers the other day. Child support on these two kids is around $1000 a month. We can't do that. And we have serious issues with paying that kind of money for the kids to NOT be taken care of.
What's our next step? We're looking for any kind of advice. Thank you.
