Intimidation

[tdbbc]

Kansas -

My wife and I are in a relationship with a 21 yr old woman in KS. We met online a little over a month ago. She had a baby earlier this week and we went to visit from MO. The plan was to get to know each other better and in two months move in with us so she could be our nanny. Apparently the nurses witnessed us holding her hand and hugging a kissing her goodbye, a simple kiss... we have never done anything more physical than that. They reported her to Social Services and she met with one of them yesterday, the same day she was released. They are trying to intimidate her, they told her that because we are married, and we met online and that we have not known eachother very long and she planned on moving here that if this was to happen she might lose her baby. They said that they were going to report it to child protective services and she would be under watch for 6-12 months. This didnt seem legal to me because it is a private relationship.

 

[seniorjudge]

Did you have a question?

 

[tdbbc]

yes I wanted to know if this is legal or if they are trying to intimidate her with no real power in this case or if she could move here when she wanted with out fear.*

 

[jacksgal]

What law do you think has been violated? Its not illegal to file a CPS report

 

[tdbbc]

do they have grounds to take her child away? Polyamory is not illegal.

 

[jacksgal]

I said anyone can file a report not that it would lead to taking of children.

 

[tdbbc]

I guess what i want to know is what are the options. Can she move here in August? Is there any threat to her losing her son or are they just trying to scare her? Any other advice would be great

 

[jacksgal]

If the claim is bosed soley on what someone feels is morally wrong I woud say no. However there may or may not be other circumstances you dont know or are not telling us. Unless CPS feels this child is being harmed you have nothing to fear. I guess you have to ask yourself the question. Is it worth the occasional pleasure to have CPS into your business. Do you have children? Do you have Grandchildren who might stay there. This means CPS "might" interview them. This could prove embarassing

 

[tdbbc]

its a polyamorous relationship its not about pleasure. Amorous means love. Thanks for helping put my mind at ease.

 

[jacksgal]

Call it what you want I not here to judge you I was merely answering your questions. A CPS investigation can bring your life and lifestyle out more in the open than you care. Some "will" judge you. What you do or do not do in this relationship means nothing to me and has no impact on my life. Personally I dont see this being an issue that could result in lost of a child but I am not CPS either and I only know that of which you have told us

 

[tdbbc]

Ive let known everything that I know, she was crying a lot last night so i will talk to her tonight and see if i got everything that she was told.*

 

[jacksgal]

Honestly this is not your choice to make it hers. You should not try to influence her ein any way that can backfire. I or anyone else here can predict what would be outcome of a CPS investigation or if they would even conduct one. I know if they do they will likely question all those they feel they need to. This could shed an unpleasant life on you and her even if incorrect. Anyways I hope this works out well for you as my husband wants his PC back to answer emails right now. Best wishes:angel