im scared to lose my daughter

[cilla07]

my name is priscilla and im 18 years old i have a daughter named serenity shes going to be one in nov. me and my daughters dad are not married but we live together, but we have been having problems and he's told me if we dont last that he wants joint custody and that he'll fight for it but i dont want that i can not, not see her for a whole week. i take care of her 24/7 he goes to work all day and im the one here for her i do everything for her, he harley does anything but bring the money to the household. and right now we live with my parents. the thing im scared of is if i fight not to have joint custody will i win or will i lose her because i dont have a job or because of my age that im so young or because i live with my parents, im just scared to lose her ill die without her. but i do plan on getting a job i wanted to work at H-E-B and get the night shift so i can be with her durning the day. i just dont know if when the time comes that he wants to leave me that i wont lose my daughter.

San antonio, texas

 

[Duranie]

first of all stop listening to her. There is actually nothing wrong with joint custoy it gets awarded all the time. It does not mean 50/50 parenting time but it means both of you are involved with legal decisions. you are only 18, I doubt the courts are going to hold living with your parents againt you. You are going to have to get a job though. Can somebody help out with daycare while you work? Can you and Dad work something out so that if you work at night, he can watch the baby? You can certainly file for child support.

Good rule of thumb-stop listening to him.

 

[jesbrumfield69]

hey girl, just want u 2 no somebody is thinkn of u. i sure hope everything works out for yal. i was in a simillar situation and my lil girl is now 6 i am still fighting 4 her. her dad is determined to win, it is all about who is in it for the long hal. we currently have joint custody, every 2 wks. with alternating weeknds. i think that if ur baby daddy is a good guy u should give him what he wants. it will save u alot of pain and worry. i promise. get it over now. i am not sure if ill win this next go round. im tired of fighting. dont have any more in me. i no thats horrible to say, but i feel like taking all her stuff to his house and throwing it out. my life will be so much betr without having to look over my shoulder at him.. please i promise joint custody aint that bad, and u will have ur time to do ur thing. then when u get her it wont be so tense. try and work out something with him. if she sees yal getting along it will make her alot happier than if yal r fighting all the time.so save urself alot of money and get it over with now. im prayn 4 yal/ pray 4 me 2