I'm Lost And Heartbroken over this baby.

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Okay, here goes. my son lives with the mother of the aforementioned baby. They are both drug addicts. He is not the father. Pills for sure, and he deals coke and crack. They have lived together since before the baby was born. He is not listed on the birth cert. moving on.,..I have been caring for this baby, now 18 months old for approximately 1 year, 3-4-days a week, including nights. I have done the best i could to keep her away from that enviironment. We love her more than anything, as though she were our own. I cannot stand taking her back anymore, its killing me. She screams and cries and reaches for me as i am driving away. This is not good for her, attachment issues are becoming apparent. She is very happy with us, and she is now starting to hide her things when its time to go home. There are people in and out of that apartment all the time. I know that she is emotionally neglected, and I know she has been traumatized by all the fighting that the drug addicts enjoy in front of her. What can I do? Please help me.
 
You cant do that! What will CPS do? Investigate and take whatever action they feel is in best interest of child. by the way if they find any unlawful acts they will likely contact Police.
 
Seemingly, I can't do that, although I was told to do just that by a deputy sheriff back in December, he assured me that at least someone would finally take notice. Obviously, i didnt take his advice(my son was in prison at that time)and i had the baby for nearly a month while mom was busy prostituting herself for pills. CPS did make a visit, but nothing happened, of course, with all the warnings they give that they are coming for a visit, it isnt like Vicodin will be all over the coffee table.
 
If your not willing to contact those who will protect the child then I guess you dont care as much as you say! Sometimes choices are tough but they have to be made. If the child is killed while in care of these people and you could have stopped it by contacting the proper authorities how would you feel!? This isnt about you or them its about the child. It would do you well to remember that:yes:
 
If I can get them busted(drug ring) will it help my cause at all? Or no? The best interests of the child are right here with me, where she is safe and happy.
 
You are a non relative. Your also bias about this with good cause. Whats in Child's best interest is up to CPS, courts etc. You may certainly petotion for custody but no one here can say if you will be successful. Once more this i snot about you or what you want its about saving the child. That may hurt but its done out of love
 
If there is drug dealing activity going on there, could you enlist the help of an undercover cop? And make sure that all those in authority know that if the baby is taken, you are available. It can be very hard to get a grandchild out of foster care. If both parents are ever incarcerated, you can file for emergency guardianship. It can be overturned, however, in future. The parents have rights, you don't.

Ask the police what would happen if the child was present when her parents were arrested. If the cops let you take her, it's possible the parents could be out in short order and come and pick the baby up.

You may want to check out www.kinsupport.org for advice from other grandparents who have gotten kinship care/guardianship/custody of their grandkids (a few have adopted). Many of the cases involve drug abuse.

Good luck.
 
ohio_granny said:
It can be very hard to get a grandchild out of foster care. If both parents are ever incarcerated, you can file for emergency guardianship. It can be overturned, however, in future. The parents have rights, you don't.

Ask the police what would happen if the child was present when her parents were arrested. If the cops let you take her, it's possible the parents could be out in short order and come and pick the baby up.

You may want to check out www.kinsupport.org for advice from other grandparents who have gotten kinship care/guardianship/custody of their grandkids (a few have adopted). Many of the cases involve drug abuse.
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The OP is not the grandparent. The child is not her son's, but the daughter of her son's girlfriend. Unless they were married before the child was born, and it doesn't sound like it, then she has no legal interest.
 
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