amotts1448
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The mother of my 3 children and I have been to court and have a court ordered visitation schedule. I was supposed to have been able, according to the court order, to pick them up on June 15 and kept them until July 27; however, their mother told me that the kids had summer camp and things such as that going on until the end of June. I try to cooperate with her and make things easy for both of us, so I agreed to wait until the end of June. My 11 year old daughter called me last night and told me that everyone is done with their camps and schools and that her mother was going to tell me that they have another "summer camp", but that I should not believe her because she is lying. She then begged me to please come pick them up. I told her that I would call her mom this morning and set it up and I would be on my way. (My children live about 8 hours away) I called their mother this morning and she informed me that I was not going to get the kids until July 23. This is an obvious violation of the court order and I cannot find anyone to enforce it. I already know, from previous experience, that when July 23 comes around there will be another excuse. I am also worried about my children's emotional well being. They are clearly suffering from this. As I was talking to their mother this morning, my 11 year old called my fiance and told her to tell me to please not tell her mom that she had called me and don't bring her name up because she still has to live there. I also asked to speak to my 9 year old son while I was on the phone with their mom. When she put him on the phone, she put him on speakerphone and he was so uncomfortable that he would barely speak to me. I have always had a close bond with my children and she is always trying to keep us apart. I am required to pay child support each month; I am unable to pay the full amount because I simply do not have it. I do, however, pay on it each month. I love my children and I am hurting from this, but I am more worried about their well being. She moves my children from city to city and state to state at least once or twice a year. She has also had several CPS cases for neglect, although, they still allow her to keep custody. She has 6 children with 4 seperate fathers. I am the only one who wants to be involved in my children's lives, but she will not allow me to be. When I first got with the mother of my children she had 2 small boys, but she did not have custody of them. Once she moved in with me, I got her boys back and moved them in my house and I raised them for the next 7 years. They are now 17 and 18 and still consider me their dad. Last year, the 18 year old had been living with me with his own baby. His mom convinced him to move back in with her and she would make sure that he got full custody of his own baby. Within 3 months, CPS came and took his baby, her grandbaby, out of that home and they are only allowed supervised visitation. I am including this information to show that there is CLEARLY a problem going on in the house that my children live in and I am very worried about them. Sadly, they are used to all the drama and they usually cope with it well; however, I have never heard them sound the way they have over the past 24 hours. My children and I need help. I cannot bear the thought of my kids having to put up with stress and adult problems; they are only kids. I have no idea what she is saying to them, but something is upsetting them. I am not accusing her of physical abuse, but there is obviously emotional abuse of some sort going on and it needs to be stopped.
