husband had affair with married woman

[louienikki]

my husband had an affair with a married woman in which she got pregnant. they decided on abortion. we paid 375.00 for this to be done with the pill. she now says it didnt work and her and her husband are keeping the child. they claim they want nothing from my husband but i need something legal from them that she cant come back later in life and do anything. my husband does not want this child and her husband does not want to adopt just act like it is his own. i do not know what action i need to take can you help me?

 

[Theresagail]

You're SOL!!! Unless ther hubby wants to adopt this kid so your hubby can sign his rights away -- it will never be over--

 

[louienikki]

what fi she puts the husbands name on the birth certificate?

 

[Theresagail]

That would be Ok, I guess, so long as she does it. I feel that some women can be vindictive and maybe her and her hubby will spilt 8 years from now and come back for --- Your guessed it $$$$$

 

[louienikki]

that is what i am trying to figure out how to stop that. the woman is crazy. she is texting and calling both of us and then leaves a voicemail to leave her alone i am so confused and just want to do the right thing here.

 

[louienikki]

i just need to know how to stop that from happening. is the only way if the husband adopts the baby?

 

[jacksgal]

Unless this woman names your husband the Father it wil automatically be assumed legally that the Husband is legal Father. A child born during a marriage makes husband legal Father unless otherwise noted. In order to change that later on Mom will have to seek a paternity test through courts. Fact your husband broke his vows and made a baby make shim responsible. You cant change that and personally I would think if your husband had feelings he would want to play a role in this child's life. Legally he is not the Father without a paternity test of if your husband signs Birth Certificate. By the way was this woman still having relatins with her husband during this time? If so child "could" be her husbands or possibly she had more than one affair?

 

[Duranie]

I think it is pretty obvious this woman did not get the abortion. Your husband should not havehad sex with her. In most states her husband is the legal father so he must legally dispute paternity but he should check with an attorney to see what the statute says in your state and what is the time frame for doing this. There is NO way to let your husband off the hook here if paternity gets disputed. Once a DNA test is done through the courts and your husband is the father, he must pay child support. Seems unlilely this husband is going to adopt the child. Time to get used to the fact your husband is having a baby with this woman and he may not be able to wiggle out of it, unless a DNA test shows he is not the father.