How do I prevent the father of my child from interferring.

[ghostangel]

Ok, long story short. I told the father of my child at 7 months pregnant that he and I were going to have a baby.

First 2 months of pregnancy before I moved out, I did not know I was pregnant. We were technically broken up at that point and I moved to Maryland where I spent the duration of my pregnancy not saying or speaking to said individual, not even for congenial matters.

As a courtesy, I told him about the baby and that I was ok if he wanted to walk away. Instead, he asserted that he had all these rights and decisions to what happens to the baby and me and harassed any decision I made for the well-being of myself and the child.

Basically, I want to know if there is any possible way to make a case to prevent the biological father of the child taking my son away from me.

Any advice to ease my fears would be appreciated. I am a good parent and my son is in a stable home. I have good reason to fear him being left in the care of my ex.

 

[Ohmyheaven]

I sincerely apologize. He does have rights, but first he has to get them legally established.

Go to court and request child support first, then he has to prove he is the father. Then he does have the right to ask for proper visitation in court. He can not ask for full custody of the baby yet. Do not stress, do not worry, just be the best parent that you can be right now.

It is better to try to communicate in a heathy way between you two for the baby. He may have been excited at first and said some things but just do what is right by making the right choices.

Let's have a positive Mother, Father exchange for once. Huh. Please?

 

[jharris352]

It is an incredibly selfish and shortsighted thing to consider your baby's father's involvement to be interference. He has just as much right to that child as you do. Your child also has just as much right to a Father as he/she does a Mother. If a man is such a bad man that you don't want children with him, you really have to make that decision before you sleep with him. You didn't, so now you have to make the best of the situation.

You two need to establish paternity, then child support and then visitation. He cannot rule your life and you can not prevent him from "interfering." You both need to sit down and get use to each other. You will be seeing and dealing with this man for the rest of your natural life so learn to be civil.

I don't put a lot of stock in vague references to how you don't want to leave the child alone with him. If there is anything real there, bring it up in the custody hearing. If it is just your attempt to make an accusation so that maybe you will be able to keep him from "interfering" then save it, you will really piss a judge off with that crap.

I know you now regret that you are connected to this man for life. I would come to terms with it though because you are connected for life. Good luck. I'm not really against you, but you have to understand that you have made another life and this just isn't about your convenience anymore. This is about the child.

 

[Duranie]

He is Dad and he does have rights, so he does have the right to take you to court to establish paternity and visitation. Time to learn to deal with him. If you go on any sort of gov't assitance the state will make you file child support against him. Until he takes you to court he has no rights.