gocubbies317
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- Jurisdiction
- Indiana
I believe I might be in a strange legal place. My son is severely disabled, but he doesn't fall under the criteria for guardianship in my state. Is there some kind of special circumstances rule? Could I just ask the judge? If I can get a hearing, I'm sure the judge will understand the problem here.
Although he hasn't been diagnosed with any mental condition, Brad is totally blind. He can't even see his own hand in front of his face. He is able to navigate using his cane and operate his smart phone and computer. We've taught him how to use a microwave, air frier, and a toaster, but he has no experience with a stove even though he has watched a lot of Youtube videos with these blind people making complicated meals, and I do fear that he will try to make one of those and either start a fire, burn himself, or not cook the food well enough to avoid getting sick.
I'm also afraid of other accidents in his home which sight could prevent such as him using a harsh chemical on his body and hair, because they're all in plastic bottles, or him tripping over something he left laying around and hurting himself. I'm also concerned about others taking advantage of him especially after what I have foundout as of late. He has adopted some pretty risky habbits. I wanted to keep this short, so that's the condenced version. I'll put more details below to help you get a clearer picture of what's going on.
He's twenty five, and I've only been concerned for the past few months, because before, he was married. It was honestly the perfect situation, because she grew-up near here and took care of him when the wife and I would go out. She would always report back to us on what was going on, but they split up right out of the blue. Now, he's living on his own, and he doesn't let us help him. He comes over for dinner once a week, but he doesn't like to answer questions. If we press him, he often lies just to get us off of his case.
He lives a short drive away in a building meant for disabled and elderly people, but I foundout that there is no assistance available. Its apparently just an apartment complex. Noone checks in on the residents. They don't even have staffmembers available outside of office hours. If its ten o'clock at night, there isn't even a front desk worker to stop him and ask where he's going.
He won't live in any kind of assisted living facility, because he thinks that my wife and I, or some other sighted people, will try to control his life. He his this rebellious streak like a teenager.
He won't give us a key or even put us on a list of people allowed to enter his apartment if he's away. Apparently, for his landlord to let us in, he has to be missing for more than forty eight hours, or he has to have died or sufffered some severe illness or something. They won't even give us a fob to enter the building.
I have been able to strike up a couple friendships in his building, and those folks try to help the best the can, but there's only so much they can do. he's already stopped trusting them.
Strangely enough, Brad's a pretty trusting guy except for when it comes to us. THat's why I'm worried about someone taking advantage of him. He talks to anyone. he can't see if that person looks shady or disheveled. He could be talking to some homeless bumb, and the guy could claim to be a pastor or someone helping the disabled or elderly, and Brad will just tell him everything. I'm worried about someone trying to scam him out of money or get access to his apartment.
he does come visit, and we have brought these issues up on a few occasions, but he won't accept any help, and now, he just doesn't tell us things. If we press him, he lies. He has blocked my wife and I on social media, but I know enough of his personal information that I have guessed his passwords. I've been able to see a lot of his online activity, and honestly, it has me worried.
he's associating with a lot of people who likely don't have his best interests at heart. He walks, all by himself, to these slummy bars in a nightlife district a few blocks from his building. He's added these people on Facebook who cover themselves with tatoos, brag about smoking marijuana and who knows what other drugs, and the women have no selfrespect. These girls are showing off everything. I don't want them doing something nasty with Brad and getting him attatched to them just so they can use him.
He seems particularly friendly with this one girl who works at one of those bars. She shows off her tatoos and seems to see nothing wrong with marijuana and even something she calls "magic mushrooms," or "shrooms," for short. Its apparently something that makes you hallusinate. What if she's dating brad and getting him hooked on drugs? What if she has him wrapped around her finger because she's doing dirty things to him, and he doesn't know any better. He just knows it feels good. Honestly, I don't think its appropriate for him to be having sex. he just doesn't understand the world like other guys his age. He needs to find a nice girl like the one he was married to, someone more responsible who will love him and take care of him.
He's started talking about some strange things too. I think he wants to impress some of these women, because they talk about it, and now, his page is covered with these reposts about scaling back the government, restricting the police, legalizing drugs, and even repealing the laws against prostitution.
I've read some of his online posts, and I think he's even been seeing prostitutes. I want to stop him from doing all of these things, and so far, it appears the legal system won't let me do anything. Is there any way around it?
Although he hasn't been diagnosed with any mental condition, Brad is totally blind. He can't even see his own hand in front of his face. He is able to navigate using his cane and operate his smart phone and computer. We've taught him how to use a microwave, air frier, and a toaster, but he has no experience with a stove even though he has watched a lot of Youtube videos with these blind people making complicated meals, and I do fear that he will try to make one of those and either start a fire, burn himself, or not cook the food well enough to avoid getting sick.
I'm also afraid of other accidents in his home which sight could prevent such as him using a harsh chemical on his body and hair, because they're all in plastic bottles, or him tripping over something he left laying around and hurting himself. I'm also concerned about others taking advantage of him especially after what I have foundout as of late. He has adopted some pretty risky habbits. I wanted to keep this short, so that's the condenced version. I'll put more details below to help you get a clearer picture of what's going on.
He's twenty five, and I've only been concerned for the past few months, because before, he was married. It was honestly the perfect situation, because she grew-up near here and took care of him when the wife and I would go out. She would always report back to us on what was going on, but they split up right out of the blue. Now, he's living on his own, and he doesn't let us help him. He comes over for dinner once a week, but he doesn't like to answer questions. If we press him, he often lies just to get us off of his case.
He lives a short drive away in a building meant for disabled and elderly people, but I foundout that there is no assistance available. Its apparently just an apartment complex. Noone checks in on the residents. They don't even have staffmembers available outside of office hours. If its ten o'clock at night, there isn't even a front desk worker to stop him and ask where he's going.
He won't live in any kind of assisted living facility, because he thinks that my wife and I, or some other sighted people, will try to control his life. He his this rebellious streak like a teenager.
He won't give us a key or even put us on a list of people allowed to enter his apartment if he's away. Apparently, for his landlord to let us in, he has to be missing for more than forty eight hours, or he has to have died or sufffered some severe illness or something. They won't even give us a fob to enter the building.
I have been able to strike up a couple friendships in his building, and those folks try to help the best the can, but there's only so much they can do. he's already stopped trusting them.
Strangely enough, Brad's a pretty trusting guy except for when it comes to us. THat's why I'm worried about someone taking advantage of him. He talks to anyone. he can't see if that person looks shady or disheveled. He could be talking to some homeless bumb, and the guy could claim to be a pastor or someone helping the disabled or elderly, and Brad will just tell him everything. I'm worried about someone trying to scam him out of money or get access to his apartment.
he does come visit, and we have brought these issues up on a few occasions, but he won't accept any help, and now, he just doesn't tell us things. If we press him, he lies. He has blocked my wife and I on social media, but I know enough of his personal information that I have guessed his passwords. I've been able to see a lot of his online activity, and honestly, it has me worried.
he's associating with a lot of people who likely don't have his best interests at heart. He walks, all by himself, to these slummy bars in a nightlife district a few blocks from his building. He's added these people on Facebook who cover themselves with tatoos, brag about smoking marijuana and who knows what other drugs, and the women have no selfrespect. These girls are showing off everything. I don't want them doing something nasty with Brad and getting him attatched to them just so they can use him.
He seems particularly friendly with this one girl who works at one of those bars. She shows off her tatoos and seems to see nothing wrong with marijuana and even something she calls "magic mushrooms," or "shrooms," for short. Its apparently something that makes you hallusinate. What if she's dating brad and getting him hooked on drugs? What if she has him wrapped around her finger because she's doing dirty things to him, and he doesn't know any better. He just knows it feels good. Honestly, I don't think its appropriate for him to be having sex. he just doesn't understand the world like other guys his age. He needs to find a nice girl like the one he was married to, someone more responsible who will love him and take care of him.
He's started talking about some strange things too. I think he wants to impress some of these women, because they talk about it, and now, his page is covered with these reposts about scaling back the government, restricting the police, legalizing drugs, and even repealing the laws against prostitution.
I've read some of his online posts, and I think he's even been seeing prostitutes. I want to stop him from doing all of these things, and so far, it appears the legal system won't let me do anything. Is there any way around it?