Afterawhile
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I have been with my fiancee for a year and half. We moved in together, well I moved to his home in late February. He has been in a nasty custody dispute with his ex-wife for more than two years. They have 3 children together and 1 child he raised, although not his.
He has been unable to see his children, except for court ordered visits for a bit at the ex-MIL home. In two years, he has not seen his children or had them alone. The ex has pulled every trick in the book. Protection orders, violation orders, left his home in foreclosure then moved, contempt of court...you name it. She has somehow denied and delayed visitation for this long, even through the courts.
He has a hearing today for completion of his Family program and to discuss visits at the parental stress center(per her request) which he registered and did intake for, under court order. She never registered herself nor the kids, and thus is in contempt again.
Recently, even with the protection order she has contacted him, invited him into her home to visit the children and invited him to his daughters softball games. She is obviously not really afraid for her life, but afraid that he might get some type of custody. She is using these orders to alienate him. He has been to court 100 times, I swear.
Anyways, he came home last night with a hand written agreement that she had given him. It states he can have the children every Sunday from 4-9, then after a month every other Saturday overnight. The thing is, she specifically states that the children are to have absolutely no contact with me! I mean, it says my name.
Well, umm...I live there along with my two children. I did tell him that I would leave if he had visits, but I am afraid in his desperation he wants this to be legal. He said if He does not agree to this, she will do everything to keep the kids away. So, I will have to pack up myself and my children and leave my house every time he has custody.
Is this feasable? We own the home together and are planning on marrying. What would the court say if he requested to modify this, and what if she denies him cooperation based on the fact that I live there? Can she legally request that I leave my home and that is the only way he can have his children? I am just at a loss. If this is actually possible I don't see how.
I pose no threat to the children and would not interrupt his visitation. I will repect his wishes, of course since it has been so long that he has seen his children. I feel that she is bieng unreasonable and this is her last effort to break us apart.
What is relly legal in this case?
They are not together because he had caught her cheating on him with two of the neighborhood 'Kids" 16 and 15 years old respectively. She is 31. SHe has never worked. He has always consistently paid child support and alimony.
He has been unable to see his children, except for court ordered visits for a bit at the ex-MIL home. In two years, he has not seen his children or had them alone. The ex has pulled every trick in the book. Protection orders, violation orders, left his home in foreclosure then moved, contempt of court...you name it. She has somehow denied and delayed visitation for this long, even through the courts.
He has a hearing today for completion of his Family program and to discuss visits at the parental stress center(per her request) which he registered and did intake for, under court order. She never registered herself nor the kids, and thus is in contempt again.
Recently, even with the protection order she has contacted him, invited him into her home to visit the children and invited him to his daughters softball games. She is obviously not really afraid for her life, but afraid that he might get some type of custody. She is using these orders to alienate him. He has been to court 100 times, I swear.
Anyways, he came home last night with a hand written agreement that she had given him. It states he can have the children every Sunday from 4-9, then after a month every other Saturday overnight. The thing is, she specifically states that the children are to have absolutely no contact with me! I mean, it says my name.
Well, umm...I live there along with my two children. I did tell him that I would leave if he had visits, but I am afraid in his desperation he wants this to be legal. He said if He does not agree to this, she will do everything to keep the kids away. So, I will have to pack up myself and my children and leave my house every time he has custody.
Is this feasable? We own the home together and are planning on marrying. What would the court say if he requested to modify this, and what if she denies him cooperation based on the fact that I live there? Can she legally request that I leave my home and that is the only way he can have his children? I am just at a loss. If this is actually possible I don't see how.
I pose no threat to the children and would not interrupt his visitation. I will repect his wishes, of course since it has been so long that he has seen his children. I feel that she is bieng unreasonable and this is her last effort to break us apart.
What is relly legal in this case?
They are not together because he had caught her cheating on him with two of the neighborhood 'Kids" 16 and 15 years old respectively. She is 31. SHe has never worked. He has always consistently paid child support and alimony.