My jurisdiction is: WA
This should be an easy one.
I am the father of an 8 yr old boy. The mother and I have joint custody but I have primary custody. The mother lives 60 miles away. The child goes to school in my neighborhood. She gets visitation 3 weekends a month (she picks him up from school on Fridays and I pick him up from her house on Sunday evenings). She also gets a Thursday visitation from after school to 8pm.
We had a lot of problems in the past, she had abandoned him a few years back for a few months (at that time, she had primary custody) and I was able to get primary custody and she had weekends once she got back on her feet.
We went to court last year after having a full custody investigation. The results of the investigation were completely in my favor and the courts decided that she should not have primary custody again. The courts suggested she have a Wednesday visit after school to 7pm, but she wanted to change that to Thursday until 8pm. We agreed to that but the judge made it clear that she needs to return the child at 8pm, not one minute late (she is always late).
Now, the last day of school is this Thursday and the Friday afterward is one of her weekends. She sent an email telling me (not asking) that she will keep him Thursday night and through the weekend because it's in his best interest to not travel so much. (She could avoid that by staying local on Thursday as she usually does).
Well, I have already made plans with him on Thursday night and Friday next day, because it is my time. I told her this and her response was that it's the courts intentions that she actually has custody from Thursday - Sunday, but since he is in school near me, that's why she brings him back on Thursday nights. And if it wasn't for school, she would get to keep him. (The CO does NOT state this anywhere). She is under the impression that her visitation is Thursday - Sunday when in reality it is 3 weekends a month, and 8 hours every Thursday. Actually, the court gave her 3 weekends a month and a Wednesday visit, which we agreed to change it to Thursday. It was never the courts intention to give her Thu-Sun.
The court order does not say anything about in the event of no school on Friday, she keeps him. It states very clearly that she is to bring him back on Thursday at 8pm and that her weekend visitation starts Friday after school (school gets out at 2:30, so if there is no school, she picks him up from our house at 2:30). That's the way we did it in the past. Now she comes up with this new interpretation. If i didn't have plans for him, I would probably let her do this, but I'd really like to spend that evening/next morning with him before he leaves for the weekend.
Any suggestions on how to handle this one?
This should be an easy one.
I am the father of an 8 yr old boy. The mother and I have joint custody but I have primary custody. The mother lives 60 miles away. The child goes to school in my neighborhood. She gets visitation 3 weekends a month (she picks him up from school on Fridays and I pick him up from her house on Sunday evenings). She also gets a Thursday visitation from after school to 8pm.
We had a lot of problems in the past, she had abandoned him a few years back for a few months (at that time, she had primary custody) and I was able to get primary custody and she had weekends once she got back on her feet.
We went to court last year after having a full custody investigation. The results of the investigation were completely in my favor and the courts decided that she should not have primary custody again. The courts suggested she have a Wednesday visit after school to 7pm, but she wanted to change that to Thursday until 8pm. We agreed to that but the judge made it clear that she needs to return the child at 8pm, not one minute late (she is always late).
Now, the last day of school is this Thursday and the Friday afterward is one of her weekends. She sent an email telling me (not asking) that she will keep him Thursday night and through the weekend because it's in his best interest to not travel so much. (She could avoid that by staying local on Thursday as she usually does).
Well, I have already made plans with him on Thursday night and Friday next day, because it is my time. I told her this and her response was that it's the courts intentions that she actually has custody from Thursday - Sunday, but since he is in school near me, that's why she brings him back on Thursday nights. And if it wasn't for school, she would get to keep him. (The CO does NOT state this anywhere). She is under the impression that her visitation is Thursday - Sunday when in reality it is 3 weekends a month, and 8 hours every Thursday. Actually, the court gave her 3 weekends a month and a Wednesday visit, which we agreed to change it to Thursday. It was never the courts intention to give her Thu-Sun.
The court order does not say anything about in the event of no school on Friday, she keeps him. It states very clearly that she is to bring him back on Thursday at 8pm and that her weekend visitation starts Friday after school (school gets out at 2:30, so if there is no school, she picks him up from our house at 2:30). That's the way we did it in the past. Now she comes up with this new interpretation. If i didn't have plans for him, I would probably let her do this, but I'd really like to spend that evening/next morning with him before he leaves for the weekend.
Any suggestions on how to handle this one?