Kearbearluver10
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My jurisdiction is: California
i am a 16 year female who lives with her mom and 25 year old brother. my mom and dad are currently going through a brutal divorce that had ended physical with my mom and dad and i. my mom is an acoholic and has a really hard time communicating without yelling. she is very short tempered. due to her constant drinking and getting drunk she fogets things very easily. so her psycological games really play a toll on my emotions. my brother also has a drinking problem. my mom can handle hers at times mostly she just sleeps and passes out. my brother does too but there have been several accounts where he has gotten physical with me and thrown me against the wall and had his hands on my throat. where he has smacked me hard. and most currently the incedent where my mom left him and i home alone for the weekend to go to vegas with my grandparents for their anniversary. my mom had laid down some strict rules about what was allowed and not allowed. neither my brother nor i have a license. but we still drive. he had gone out to take care of our grandparents animals that are only like 10 minuets away, while i was in school. i came home and he wasnt home and when he did come home he was back like 3 hours after he told me he would be. thats fine. he came home completly wasted...to which my mom said wasnt allowed because i needed an adult to watch over me. my mom had told me not to call her over the weekend because she didnt need to deal with any troubles because she has lied to her parents about my brother and his habit of drinking. my brother has been in rehab twice and to everyone in the family they are told hes sober. i am very against drinking because i hate what it has turned the people around me into. so when he came home he walked in the house and stumbled into the wall and almost tripped then walked into the kitchen and hit the trash can ... and continued to stumble. i debated calling my mom but i had asked my brother for the keys because my mom had told me what i needed to buy at the grocery store with a specific amount of money. so he handed over the keys and i got in the car. i called my mom and she called and talked to him and said she cleared everything up with him. (i deal with my brother passing out and puking and things like that every other week or every 2 weeks, and the last time i had to drag him outside because he puked every where.) so when i came home he asked me why i "tattled" on him and i told him. i then left him in the living room and went into my moms room and watched tv and played on the computer. he came in and asked me for the keys so he could go get something to drink.(alcoholic) and i told him no because my mom told me not to give him the keys. he then proceeded to ask me again and politly i told him the same thing. then he called me names and then came towards me and put his hand like he was going to smack me. he told me that i have 2 options. i may either drive him down there to go get it or i could give him the keys and i told him no to both. then he went to my room to get my cell phone because that is my most precious possesion. and when he reached for it i put my hand in front of him to grab it. then he pushed me and i pushed back because i get angry because of how i was treated from my dad. so he left me in my room and took my phone and went down the hallway. when i tried to reach for the phone he grabbed me and put me in a headlock and threw me to the ground. (hes a muscular man of like 270 pounds) and then got on top of me. i could not breath for a good minuet or so until i elbowed him in the stomach then he moved so i could but i was still in a headlock. i screamed as loud as i could knowing that i knew no one will help and when he let me go i called the cops but hung up because i didnt know if i was acting in the right. so i ran to my moms room and locked the door and called her. she didnt answer for like 2 hours because her phone was off. but after i had politly went out and asked my brother for my phone back he wouldnt give it to me then the phone rang and it was the cops. i talked to them and they sent a unit out. they talked to both of us. and did absolutly nothing about the situation because it was "sibling rivalry" and said i had to give him the car keys because he was the adult. they said if he leaves then to call them back. my mom then finally called and was yelling and screaming.she said i was out of line to call the cops and that we needed to get along. he had decided to go over to a friends house and stay there for the weekend. he left as did i and i told my mom i wasnt coming home because she has made promise after promise about taking care of him because i dont need to grow up and see that because i am only 16 and a junior in high school. and i said that was the last straw because no one was there to help that time. even though normally she just watches if he does something. and it was as if he didnt move i could have died from no air. i told my best friend and she wanted me to immediatly speak with her mom and i am still working up the courage to do so. so when my mom was on her way home she had told me to pick my brother up form my grandparents beacause thats where he used to live and was staying to take care of the animals. and i told her no because he wasnt coming back to live here. and so i finally broke down and went to get him. when i called him he said he would be right out. 20 minuets later i went inside and the house was trashed! food everywhere clothes everywhere and alcohol everywhere! i was so angry because my grandparents would be home any minuet and i didnt need them to know i wasnt supposed to be driving. my brother was so drunk that when my mom got to the house she told him she was taking him to rehab. she gave him a breathalizer test and he was at a level of 3.8 after 7 hours after we first picked him up and took him back to my house. my mom was furious. then when he got out of rehab in which he only stayed there for 6 days, he lied to her about what happened and i got punished for calling the cops. she said it was completly out of line and that i was crying wolf that my brother never hurt me and that i started it all. till this day she wont belive me and is still punishing me severly for it. and it kills me. she palys favorites between my brother and i because if you buy her a beer your her best friend and i cant do that because im not 21 and i am against drinking. she yells and screams at me about things that i remind her about that she says i never tell her. and she is so lazy and i feel like i am the adult in the house. she rarely cleans and rarley cooks. i do most of it. my chores consist of dishes everyday wash dry and put away trash, cans,dog piles and cleaning the stove which i usually dont do because i dont like being the only one who ever does work in the house. and then when she feels like it because she doesnt want to do something adds it on there as a "chore" and says oh you know its your chore you are supposed to do it weekly. she is so irrisponible with her money beacuase she is disabled and is now currently collecting child support and alimony and that when comes the end of the month and i need something like contact solution or something for school she tells me theres no money but when i come home from school she has 2 or 3 24oz beers next to her. she puts her habit before me. and it drives me crazy. she barely scrimps to pay bills and everything is always wayyyyy past due and usually gets turned off before she pays it. she spends a ton of her money on alcohol. i have just recently been employed and is the only person in the house who is but i have 2 places that will take me in. my best friends mom has always said she will adopt me in a heart beat and i can always do work for her to earn money such as babysitting everyday and housework for several hours. and my boyfriend who i know i will spend the rest of my life with because i know it deep down in my heart and thats really what i know will happen beacuse i have been with him for almost 2 years but have been friends 3 years prior to that, and we plan on getting engaged when i am old enough to accept that for myself and he lives in another state has offered me to come there as well as his family because they would rather me live there since in a year or so i will be moving there for college. and again i can earn my rent doing things there. i need escape from this place and i cant seem to find any advice because you have to pay for it. i need a way out and a way out now. my mom has sole custody of me and i will NEVER live with my dad after what he has put me through and he still makes me cry and scares me down to the bone when i think of him. i want to be emancipated and live any where but here. can someone please help me? and i can give you sooooo much more detail than this. thank you so much someone please take the time to read this and help im am so desperate for help right now.
i am a 16 year female who lives with her mom and 25 year old brother. my mom and dad are currently going through a brutal divorce that had ended physical with my mom and dad and i. my mom is an acoholic and has a really hard time communicating without yelling. she is very short tempered. due to her constant drinking and getting drunk she fogets things very easily. so her psycological games really play a toll on my emotions. my brother also has a drinking problem. my mom can handle hers at times mostly she just sleeps and passes out. my brother does too but there have been several accounts where he has gotten physical with me and thrown me against the wall and had his hands on my throat. where he has smacked me hard. and most currently the incedent where my mom left him and i home alone for the weekend to go to vegas with my grandparents for their anniversary. my mom had laid down some strict rules about what was allowed and not allowed. neither my brother nor i have a license. but we still drive. he had gone out to take care of our grandparents animals that are only like 10 minuets away, while i was in school. i came home and he wasnt home and when he did come home he was back like 3 hours after he told me he would be. thats fine. he came home completly wasted...to which my mom said wasnt allowed because i needed an adult to watch over me. my mom had told me not to call her over the weekend because she didnt need to deal with any troubles because she has lied to her parents about my brother and his habit of drinking. my brother has been in rehab twice and to everyone in the family they are told hes sober. i am very against drinking because i hate what it has turned the people around me into. so when he came home he walked in the house and stumbled into the wall and almost tripped then walked into the kitchen and hit the trash can ... and continued to stumble. i debated calling my mom but i had asked my brother for the keys because my mom had told me what i needed to buy at the grocery store with a specific amount of money. so he handed over the keys and i got in the car. i called my mom and she called and talked to him and said she cleared everything up with him. (i deal with my brother passing out and puking and things like that every other week or every 2 weeks, and the last time i had to drag him outside because he puked every where.) so when i came home he asked me why i "tattled" on him and i told him. i then left him in the living room and went into my moms room and watched tv and played on the computer. he came in and asked me for the keys so he could go get something to drink.(alcoholic) and i told him no because my mom told me not to give him the keys. he then proceeded to ask me again and politly i told him the same thing. then he called me names and then came towards me and put his hand like he was going to smack me. he told me that i have 2 options. i may either drive him down there to go get it or i could give him the keys and i told him no to both. then he went to my room to get my cell phone because that is my most precious possesion. and when he reached for it i put my hand in front of him to grab it. then he pushed me and i pushed back because i get angry because of how i was treated from my dad. so he left me in my room and took my phone and went down the hallway. when i tried to reach for the phone he grabbed me and put me in a headlock and threw me to the ground. (hes a muscular man of like 270 pounds) and then got on top of me. i could not breath for a good minuet or so until i elbowed him in the stomach then he moved so i could but i was still in a headlock. i screamed as loud as i could knowing that i knew no one will help and when he let me go i called the cops but hung up because i didnt know if i was acting in the right. so i ran to my moms room and locked the door and called her. she didnt answer for like 2 hours because her phone was off. but after i had politly went out and asked my brother for my phone back he wouldnt give it to me then the phone rang and it was the cops. i talked to them and they sent a unit out. they talked to both of us. and did absolutly nothing about the situation because it was "sibling rivalry" and said i had to give him the car keys because he was the adult. they said if he leaves then to call them back. my mom then finally called and was yelling and screaming.she said i was out of line to call the cops and that we needed to get along. he had decided to go over to a friends house and stay there for the weekend. he left as did i and i told my mom i wasnt coming home because she has made promise after promise about taking care of him because i dont need to grow up and see that because i am only 16 and a junior in high school. and i said that was the last straw because no one was there to help that time. even though normally she just watches if he does something. and it was as if he didnt move i could have died from no air. i told my best friend and she wanted me to immediatly speak with her mom and i am still working up the courage to do so. so when my mom was on her way home she had told me to pick my brother up form my grandparents beacause thats where he used to live and was staying to take care of the animals. and i told her no because he wasnt coming back to live here. and so i finally broke down and went to get him. when i called him he said he would be right out. 20 minuets later i went inside and the house was trashed! food everywhere clothes everywhere and alcohol everywhere! i was so angry because my grandparents would be home any minuet and i didnt need them to know i wasnt supposed to be driving. my brother was so drunk that when my mom got to the house she told him she was taking him to rehab. she gave him a breathalizer test and he was at a level of 3.8 after 7 hours after we first picked him up and took him back to my house. my mom was furious. then when he got out of rehab in which he only stayed there for 6 days, he lied to her about what happened and i got punished for calling the cops. she said it was completly out of line and that i was crying wolf that my brother never hurt me and that i started it all. till this day she wont belive me and is still punishing me severly for it. and it kills me. she palys favorites between my brother and i because if you buy her a beer your her best friend and i cant do that because im not 21 and i am against drinking. she yells and screams at me about things that i remind her about that she says i never tell her. and she is so lazy and i feel like i am the adult in the house. she rarely cleans and rarley cooks. i do most of it. my chores consist of dishes everyday wash dry and put away trash, cans,dog piles and cleaning the stove which i usually dont do because i dont like being the only one who ever does work in the house. and then when she feels like it because she doesnt want to do something adds it on there as a "chore" and says oh you know its your chore you are supposed to do it weekly. she is so irrisponible with her money beacuase she is disabled and is now currently collecting child support and alimony and that when comes the end of the month and i need something like contact solution or something for school she tells me theres no money but when i come home from school she has 2 or 3 24oz beers next to her. she puts her habit before me. and it drives me crazy. she barely scrimps to pay bills and everything is always wayyyyy past due and usually gets turned off before she pays it. she spends a ton of her money on alcohol. i have just recently been employed and is the only person in the house who is but i have 2 places that will take me in. my best friends mom has always said she will adopt me in a heart beat and i can always do work for her to earn money such as babysitting everyday and housework for several hours. and my boyfriend who i know i will spend the rest of my life with because i know it deep down in my heart and thats really what i know will happen beacuse i have been with him for almost 2 years but have been friends 3 years prior to that, and we plan on getting engaged when i am old enough to accept that for myself and he lives in another state has offered me to come there as well as his family because they would rather me live there since in a year or so i will be moving there for college. and again i can earn my rent doing things there. i need escape from this place and i cant seem to find any advice because you have to pay for it. i need a way out and a way out now. my mom has sole custody of me and i will NEVER live with my dad after what he has put me through and he still makes me cry and scares me down to the bone when i think of him. i want to be emancipated and live any where but here. can someone please help me? and i can give you sooooo much more detail than this. thank you so much someone please take the time to read this and help im am so desperate for help right now.
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