He wants to make his own arrangement

[whatisfair]

My husband and I have been married for over 6 years. After growing apart and realizing after a numerous events I would ask him for divorce. After the shocking news he decided to apply online for the divorce. There are assets, house, IRA, stock options, car payments, loans etc, etc. I practically don't know much about his intentions, he claims that he will never let my daughter (only mine) and I to starve but then he doesn't want to sell the house. He won't pay child support since she is not his child and then he wants to pay $1000 per month. I have a job now but I don't make nearly what he does. I will end up moving out of California since by myself there is no way I can afford it but he won't open up with his financial stuff. He invests in a group with some friends and he has not mentioned any of that.

I just want to be fair, but I am not sure what I should call fair. I thought about getting a lawyer but there is no way I can afford to pay for the services since there was never a join bank account or anything in that nature. I told him he would have to sell the house or "buy me out" he said if we sell there wont be money for him or me...


Can anyone help?

 

[calalily]

You really need a lawyer for something like this. Some offer a sliding scale to clients. A lawyer can get a court order for financial disclosure of all your husband's assessts. Of course if you do this, your husband will become hostile and your divorce become a very difficult one. Did he adopt your daughter? If he did, he will have to pay child support. If he didn't, then why are you not getting support from bio dad? The $1000 he is talking about would be spousal support right or is he calling it something else? And for how long does he intend to pay this? Are you a community property state? You really need to weigh your options, but without counsel, you will never really know what "fair" is.

 

[Duranie]

you might get very limited spousal support but a 6 year marriage is not lng enough for anything more than temporary alimony. He doesn't pay child support for a child not his, time to go after bio dad for that.
you should see an attorney, you likley are entitled to some of the assets accumulated during the marriage.