I am a unwed mother of a 4 month old child. Paternity has not been established. The father of my child uses drugs. I have proof of him saying so himself and he has failed many drug tests or admitted it to me. He also has a posession charge. I have tried many times to work with him on supervised visitaion with myself in the end he rarely came around. We had agreements on the visitation and buying diapers every week.That also did not work out. He says he wants to be around but never does so. I told him if he really does want to be there for his son and he has stopped using drugs that he needs to go through the court instead of me. Will this in any way hurt me in court. Also I don't really see him going after custody/visitation any time soon would it be easier for me to just get it out of the way now or since he has no rights at the moment because paternity is not established to just let it be?