I am a unwed mother of a 4 month old child. Paternity has not been established. The father of my child uses drugs. I have proof of him saying so himself and he has failed many drug tests or admitted it to me. He also has a posession charge. I have tried many times to work with him on supervised visitaion with myself in the end he rarely came around. We had agreements on the visitation and buying diapers every week.That also did not work out. He says he wants to be around but never does so. I told him if he really does want to be there for his son and he has stopped using drugs that he needs to go through the court instead of me. Will this in any way hurt me in court. Also I don't really see him going after custody/visitation any time soon would it be easier for me to just get it out of the way now or since he has no rights at the moment because paternity is not established to just let it be?
Fed up what do I do?
- Thread Starter rachael
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jharris352
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You are doing the right thing. I'm in Georgia, no one is going to let him have unsupervised visitation or custody. If you apply for TANIF DHR will go after him for child support. Or if you had the baby on Medicaid they will eventually get around to suing him.
I would let it go unless you want him to pay child support. I am normally very pro-father, but until this man straightens up his life he is not good for the child or for you. You might fall back in with him and have trouble with DFACS yourself.
If he does want to pursue anything here are the steps he will have to take. He will have to take: 1. He will have to legitimate his son under O.C.G.A 19-7-27 to become the legal father. You could oppose it but he will likely be able to legitimate anyway. Then under title 19 he can set up visitation, child support and custody. With what you have said he doesn't have a snowball's chance in hell of getting custody but he can ask.
Good luck.
I would let it go unless you want him to pay child support. I am normally very pro-father, but until this man straightens up his life he is not good for the child or for you. You might fall back in with him and have trouble with DFACS yourself.
If he does want to pursue anything here are the steps he will have to take. He will have to take: 1. He will have to legitimate his son under O.C.G.A 19-7-27 to become the legal father. You could oppose it but he will likely be able to legitimate anyway. Then under title 19 he can set up visitation, child support and custody. With what you have said he doesn't have a snowball's chance in hell of getting custody but he can ask.
Good luck.
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