I have a young daughter who lives with mother and boyfriend. I found out that boyfriend has an ex and a child who he is not allowed to see. He has no job and lives off of my child support. Is there anyway i can find out why he cant see his child or can I file to have him or my daughter removed from the home. As soon as the divorce was finalized she moved with him and my daughter out of state. I let this go because she moved for a job and I dont want my daughter to go without because of us. I am worried about the boyfriend though. I know for a fact he is a heavy pot smoker. can I have them drug tested. I'm not spiteful or hateful or she is an adult and made her choice I worry about my daughter and want to make sure my support goes to her and not to him in lieu of a job.
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There is nothing you can do right now. Mom is free to live with a freeloader if she wants. Unless you can prove he is abusing the child you are kind of stuck. If I were you, see what criminal record he has and start going to court websites and looking on the internet. Do you know his full name and date of birth? How long ago did she move? Make sure mom is on the hook for transportation costs and you need to make sure you update your visitation so that mom does not play games with you.
Also just because he is not allowed to see his child really doesn't mean much. It could be that paternity was never eatablished or he never went to court for the child. Google his name and go to court websites in his area to see if you can access any public records online.
If you can prove the pot smoking, you might be able to do something there but you really need to talk to an attorney.
Do you have any actual court order with mom?
Also just because he is not allowed to see his child really doesn't mean much. It could be that paternity was never eatablished or he never went to court for the child. Google his name and go to court websites in his area to see if you can access any public records online.
If you can prove the pot smoking, you might be able to do something there but you really need to talk to an attorney.
Do you have any actual court order with mom?
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There is a way but I would be careful about it
I have to disagree with Duraine on this one. You can make a referral to Family and Children Services, or whatever it is called in your or rather their state. Put in it that you are concerned about your child because it is your belief that he is not allowed contact with his own child in Whatever State assuming you know. You can also make the accusation that he is a drug user, I assume your ex is too because I have found one spouse rarely is if the other isn't.
CPS will do an investigation without telling anyone who made the referral. If they find it necessary to remove the child from that home you will be considered first for placement.
The danger is that CPS is a sticky animal and once you involve them you might as well tap dance in a bond fire. The monster can easily turn on you.
Aside from that you can file for a modification of custody based on your ex having an unfit living environment. That isn't easy to prove but if this man truly is a pot smoker the court can order drug tests based upon what is best for the child. Refusal to take the tests would likely result in contempt or loss of custody. Good luck, chose carefully.
I have to disagree with Duraine on this one. You can make a referral to Family and Children Services, or whatever it is called in your or rather their state. Put in it that you are concerned about your child because it is your belief that he is not allowed contact with his own child in Whatever State assuming you know. You can also make the accusation that he is a drug user, I assume your ex is too because I have found one spouse rarely is if the other isn't.
CPS will do an investigation without telling anyone who made the referral. If they find it necessary to remove the child from that home you will be considered first for placement.
The danger is that CPS is a sticky animal and once you involve them you might as well tap dance in a bond fire. The monster can easily turn on you.
Aside from that you can file for a modification of custody based on your ex having an unfit living environment. That isn't easy to prove but if this man truly is a pot smoker the court can order drug tests based upon what is best for the child. Refusal to take the tests would likely result in contempt or loss of custody. Good luck, chose carefully.
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