Ex is threatening to make contact w/kids

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My ex husband and I have 3 kids. He signed his parental rights over and my husband now has adopted them. My ex and I have to go back to court because there is an issue with back child support and he keeps calling and and stating to me that if he has to pay it then he WILL be in the kids' lives. He has not spoken nor seen them in over 5 years and he has no rights to them now but I know that he is a very aggressive person and I am afraid that he will try to make contact with the kids. Is there any kind of order that I can file that can keep him away from them? The 2 youngest do not remember him at all and would be freaked out if he just popped up out of nowhere. Thanks for any help!
 
He shouldn't have to pay back child support if he signed over his rights to you. If he didn't put that in the agreement he should have. Even if he didn't stop money grubbing and leave him alone. You got the kids now go on!
 
Excuse me!! But you are mistaken... The issue about back child support was to get it dropped completely. I am far from a money grubber and NEVER asked nor recieved a dime from him. My only issue is about my kids safety. Period.
 
PS: how about a Pre-script. I may be totally misunderstanding you. But as I understand it you got him to sign over the kids and you are still chasing him for back child support? If so my answer applies, if not I am lost.==========>>>

If you are perusing him for back child support after he signed the kids over, I think you are morally wrong. That is my opinion and I understand it isn't a legal one. If you want him in your kids life then get the child support. If you want him out of the children's life and you are truly "interested in their safety" then stop chasing him for money.

Take the kids and your new husband and live life. Stop stirring in that pot and it will stop stinking. Does that make sense?

From a legal point of view, if he did not insist on a clause that forgave his back child support in exchange for signing over the kids you Might be able to harass him in court over it and you might also eventually win. But I totally understand his position.

Why do you want to mess with back child support if you have the kids and you don't want him in their lives? Is the money really that important? You say it isn't, you say you are only concerned for their safety so drop the pursuit of the money and he will go away. You are out clean, why complicate matters for money sake?
 
By the way, I perhaps should not have used the word "moneygrubbing." I just would hate to see you go after money and ruin a perfectly good quick break for the kids away from him.
 
I am not pursuing the back child support. What happenend was that when we went in front of the judge for the adoption,(my ex signed a paper to terminate parental rights and mailed it to me, he lives in another state.) the judge did not put in the Final Adoption to drop all back child support but he did stop the on going. I have been working with my ex to try to get this resolved with the Dept. of Revenue at which point the man there told me that in order to correct it we would have to go back to court to get it taken care of. My ex recieved a copy of the paper showing that there was a court date and I tried to explain what it was for but he is assuming that he will have to pay the arrearages. He is now livid and is calling telling me that he will be in their lives. Like I said before, I am not going after him for anything. I am just trying to get a situation resolved and protect my kids. Do you understand where I am coming from now?
 
If your new husband adopted the kids, your ex is not longer their father. Period. He has no more right to visitation or any kind of parental right than I do.

He may still be liable for back support but this is a completely separate issue.
 
Yes I do and I apologize for not understanding in the first place. Now I don't understand the Adoption Court Judge's reaction. If you are ok with forgiving the child support, he should be. There is an easy fix.

Write out a receipt to your ex that says: received $xxxx.xx in cash for child support arrearages. This constitutes complete payment of all arrearages and they are now paid in full. Sign and date and give it to him.

Then tell whatever govt agency that is chasing him that he paid and to leave him alone. That way back child support is paid, and he won't owe ongoing child support, and you and your family can move on. Sorry for the misunderstanding. Does my solution make sense?
 
Proserpina said:
If your new husband adopted the kids, your ex is not longer their father. Period. He has no more right to visitation or any kind of parental right than I do.

He may still be liable for back support but this is a completely separate issue.
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Proserpina is right here. Don't sweat his threats. If he contacts the children get a restraining order. If he breaks it put him in jail. He has no rights at this point. He can't fight for the kids.

For the sake of PEACE, see my other answer and accept "payment" for all back child support and get him off the hook. Maybe he will go away.
 
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