Hello,
I am in VA and have been married to an abusive man for 5 years now and was wondering if this spousal abuse can have an impact on the custody decision. I don't know if pictures of the damage in the house and 2 domestic violence calls documentatons (not police reports, just documentation) is considered evidence, but that is all I have. I was always afraid to press charges against him because of the potential consequences (him going to jail, divorce,him hurting me worse, etc.). He moved out 1 year ago and I have been the primary caregiver for our 2 children. He supports us financially and sees the kids 2-3 times a week (never overnight).
There are times when my son has to listen to his father's verbal assaults towards me, but I have no proof (son is 3). I realize this is hurting my children, but how will I convince a judge/court that he will not stop before my children???
He is very capable of presenting himself as the example citizen and arrogantly proclaims that every judge will award him joint legal custody, based on his appearance and the picture he paints through his lawyer. Will they award him joint legal custody??
I am not currently working and do not have any family here to help or support me. He has his family here (he lives with his mother).
Will the judge ignore the domestic violence issue when it comes to custody matters???
I am in VA and have been married to an abusive man for 5 years now and was wondering if this spousal abuse can have an impact on the custody decision. I don't know if pictures of the damage in the house and 2 domestic violence calls documentatons (not police reports, just documentation) is considered evidence, but that is all I have. I was always afraid to press charges against him because of the potential consequences (him going to jail, divorce,him hurting me worse, etc.). He moved out 1 year ago and I have been the primary caregiver for our 2 children. He supports us financially and sees the kids 2-3 times a week (never overnight).
There are times when my son has to listen to his father's verbal assaults towards me, but I have no proof (son is 3). I realize this is hurting my children, but how will I convince a judge/court that he will not stop before my children???
He is very capable of presenting himself as the example citizen and arrogantly proclaims that every judge will award him joint legal custody, based on his appearance and the picture he paints through his lawyer. Will they award him joint legal custody??
I am not currently working and do not have any family here to help or support me. He has his family here (he lives with his mother).
Will the judge ignore the domestic violence issue when it comes to custody matters???