Ex Doesn't Want Our Child. What Happens Now?

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LuckyMe11

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I'm 4 months pregnant and two weeks ago, the father of my child told me he wasn't going to have anything to do with the baby. If he doesn't want to be a part of the child's life, I have no intentions on trying to make him. I'm just unsure of what to do legally. I haven't talked to him since so I don't know if he's planning on just walking away and forgetting about his child or if he's going to legally give up his rights.

If he does legally sign over his parental rights, what happens?
Is he still obligated to provide for the child or is he just free of it?
Do we have to go to court to do that?
Does the judge have any say it in?
Do I have any say it?

I know I have a lot of questions but I'm trying to learn as much as possible before I have to deal with all the legal stuff. If he does just walk away, will he be able to get visitation rights later in the child's life, if he chooses? Are there any other options other than signing over rights or just forgetting about the child?

Thanks to anyone that can answer anything for me...
 
First of all the child is not even born yet, so once the baby is born, you have some decisons to make.

Most of your dilemma is really quite simple. He cannot just sign away his rights. Child support and visitation are entirely seperate. If he chooses not to be involved that is his choice but if you file for child support he likely will be ordered to pay. The courts do not allow an idiot to sign a piece of paper to get him out of a child support obligation. If that was the case we would have tens of millions of deadbeat dads walking around.

Paternity will have to be established if you file for child support, or go on government assistance. This, in turn will give dad some rights but he would have to go to court to excercise them.

I think all you can do at this point is encourage him to be involved, but be preapred you have a child to raise, possibly on your own and that will not be easy. Hopefully you have a job, if not time to get one. If Dad does not sign the paperwork at birth you'll have to likely go thorugh the courts and have paternity established via a dna test.

Good luck
 
First of all the child is not even born yet, so once the baby is born, you have some decisons to make.

Most of your dilemma is really quite simple. He cannot just sign away his rights. Child support and visitation are entirely seperate. If he chooses not to be involved that is his choice but if you file for child support he likely will be ordered to pay. The courts do not allow an idiot to sign a piece of paper to get him out of a child support obligation. If that was the case we would have tens of millions of deadbeat dads walking around.

Paternity will have to be established if you file for child support, or go on government assistance. This, in turn will give dad some rights but he would have to go to court to excercise them.

I think all you can do at this point is encourage him to be involved, but be preapred you have a child to raise, possibly on your own and that will not be easy. Hopefully you have a job, if not time to get one. If Dad does not sign the paperwork at birth you'll have to likely go thorugh the courts and have paternity established via a dna test.

Good luck

I was wondering about that child support thing. It seems like if it were that easy, everybody would do it. I do have a job, so that's not an issue... I'll continue to work so, I don't have to deal with the public assitance issues.

I'm kind of worried about encouraging him to be in the baby's life because he really doesn't want to. I don't know if it's better to have him be totally out of the baby's life because of his feelings towards the child or push for him to be in the child's life and risk the baby being mistreated or have the dad come in and out of the child's life.

I'm really unsure about alot of things right now but maybe he'll come around. I just have to wait and see how things go.

Thanks for your help.
 
You still have 5 more months before the baby is born, maybe he will come around. Perhaps when he actually sees the baby he will change his mind.

Good luck
 
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