- Jurisdiction
- New York
I'm 56 and my partner Tom is 62. He is a disabled Vietnam Vet and I have supported him since he was blinded in a VA hospital 'mishap' in 2000.
If I die first he will get a house upstate NY that is in my name only. Upon his death the house would then go to the alternate beneficiary in his will, his niece. As Tom's family have done us nothing but harm I do not want any member of his family to benefit from my years of cash and sweat equity.
Tom has just relocated South to another house I bought him, so there is no issue of leaving him homeless.
Ideally I would leave the house to Tom with the caveat that no member of his family could ever reside there, but that would seem impossible to police / enforce. Another option would be to choose an executor to sell the house upon my death and leave the proceeds to Tom. Even if he then left some money to his family I wouldn't be rolling in my grave.
Amongst their offenses, cheating him out of a 750K inheritance from his father, accepting 15K for a Jeep which was never delivered, 'borrowing' and never repaying 17K to pay property taxes on a luxury home and worst of all not visiting or phoning when he was literally blinded in a botched VA hospital operation. It is beyond me how this ultra-patriotic family could treat their Vietnam Vet brother this way.
I am looking for the right way to do this.
If I die first he will get a house upstate NY that is in my name only. Upon his death the house would then go to the alternate beneficiary in his will, his niece. As Tom's family have done us nothing but harm I do not want any member of his family to benefit from my years of cash and sweat equity.
Tom has just relocated South to another house I bought him, so there is no issue of leaving him homeless.
Ideally I would leave the house to Tom with the caveat that no member of his family could ever reside there, but that would seem impossible to police / enforce. Another option would be to choose an executor to sell the house upon my death and leave the proceeds to Tom. Even if he then left some money to his family I wouldn't be rolling in my grave.
Amongst their offenses, cheating him out of a 750K inheritance from his father, accepting 15K for a Jeep which was never delivered, 'borrowing' and never repaying 17K to pay property taxes on a luxury home and worst of all not visiting or phoning when he was literally blinded in a botched VA hospital operation. It is beyond me how this ultra-patriotic family could treat their Vietnam Vet brother this way.
I am looking for the right way to do this.