Do I Owe This/What's my obligation ?

[jsweetiecheeks]

For twenty years , my husband and his Mother ( AGAINST my wishes ) has been giving him money .Bailing him out , so to speak . I have begged her to stop it ! And I have begged him to stop it ! They do not consider me at all ! No checks have ever included my name , they have all been made out to my husband . Here's the question : If he should die ( his health is now shakey ) or we should divorce ( which we have talked about alot lately ) do I owe her ( my Mother-in-law ) money ?Or does he ( from his half ) owe her money ? Everyone that knows us , also know that I NEVER wanted , benifitted , or asked for her money !! She just jumps in and sends him money ! He tells me if and when we divorce , she gets hers first . I have "NEVER" had anything to say about our finances .PLEASE HELP ! Where do I stand ?
Thank-You !

 

[jsweetiecheeks]

For twenty years , my husband and his Mother ( AGAINST my wishes ) has been giving him money .Bailing him out , so to speak . I have begged her to stop it ! And I have begged him to stop it ! They do not consider me at all ! No checks have ever included my name , they have all been made out to my husband . Here's the question : If he should die ( his health is now shakey ) or we should divorce ( which we have talked about alot lately ) do I owe her ( my Mother-in-law ) money ?Or does he ( from his half ) owe her money ? Everyone that knows us , also know that I NEVER wanted , benifitted , or asked for her money !! She just jumps in and sends him money ! He tells me if and when we divorce , she gets hers first . I have "NEVER" had anything to say about our finances .PLEASE HELP ! Where do I stand ?
Thank-You !

I also "KNOW" for a fact , she would give him , back the money , and I would be left with "NOTHING" @ 55 years old .

 

[jacksgal]

Your very unclear on this. You say Mom is "giving" money to your husband. Thats not a loan and therefore not repayable. If it was indeed a loan then you as his wife could be held accountable for your mutal debts regardless of whoses name is on checks

 

[bci51]

I doubt that she would be able to force you to pay her back even half. If she is giving him money with no intention of being repaid within a year, the Statues of Fraud might apply which requires the agreement to be in writing if over $500. A Husband can certainly acquire debt that the wife would be responsible for, but in this case, it sure appears to be a gift. You should see an attorney to see if you can send her notice that you will not be responsible for any future debt, or to see if a seperation notice can stop you from being liable for any future debt. After 20 years, though, it might be presummed that you have accepted his behaviour and condone it.