My husband and his son haven't seen each other since June. Him and his ex have been in a battle since him and I got together it's seems like. We spent around $5000 just 3 years ago doing a parenting plan. They actually both agreed and compromised on things with attorneys and there you go. We did let at lot go and most of the things in the papers were to her liking, but we were tired of fighting. That didn't last long, fighting ever since. This year has been really bad, her and I got into it in Feb and charges were filed on both sides. She w/held his son for a few months b/c of that. But of course it was him saying he didn't want to come. Then when he finally did start coming on his weekends again she exercised her right to pick him up at night while his dad was working. 9pm she would pick him up to drive an hour home to bring him back at 9 am, she would do this both nights just to spite us. Poor kid was so tired he hardly played. Her and I went to court and we dropped charges on each other and they agreed to change of venue to johnson county. A comment was made one visit before the charges were dropped, when she wanted to call my cell phone, I said I really think she just needed to be calling my husbands so we didn't have contact. So she got 9 yr old a cell to bring w/ him. He had it one afternoon and then next visit was summer time and he would be staying a week with us, we did week trade offs in summer. We had rules at our house about cell phone and went over them with him and he understood. 2nd nite during our 1st summer visit he got in trouble by his father, and hubby did smack his butt. A few mins later we found my step son sneaking in the bathroom w/ his cell that was already put up for the night calling her. So she picked him up b/c hubby was going to work so she exercised her right. Yes she called srs on us and all accusations were cleared. Hubby is also a cop. Step son doesn't want to be here unless he can always have his phone on him, and the list goes on. When hubby and her are talking and fighting about a visit and that he needed to come, and that it was his decision she would put child in the middle of it and have him texting hubby about the rules and so on. Or she would up and have child call and he would be yelling and screaming at my husband and of course like all the calls she is standing right there and he has to repeat everything hubby says to him to her and tell hubby what mom is telling him to say.....b/c this was causing a lot of hard feelings at the moment b/t him and his son he said enough if he doesn't want to come then fine. When he was fighting for him to come we found out something that she was trying to do that would have affected his job. So he said whatever when he wants to come he can. he was trying to let things cool down. According to his family that talks to child he is telling them that mom wont let him come unless the list of rules are met, mom said dad messed up bad, and is unstable and unfit, that he had a dad at home that was now going to be his dad...and on ...when hubby talks to him he tells dad that he misses him and he cries for him all the time, when hubby says when are you coming he says when we don't have a busy weekend, which is never she always has something going on, that was another issue when we were getting him every other weekend, she would have him call already crying before he even said hello beggin to stay home to do such and such b/c he didn't want to miss it.
Anyway, here is my question, hubby did sent a text saying he was done let him come when he wants, but she is taking that to far. What can he do? can he now text her and say look we need to follow the papers now? And file contempt charges if she doesn't? We are also not sure if she will try to get a pfa from the incident back in June, if she even gets the temp one for 30 days until court then hubby can't work his job =no pay!! Or wait til we can get the rest of the money together for an attorney and go that route??? Sorry so long we are just stuck and not sure what to do....Thanks so much!
Anyway, here is my question, hubby did sent a text saying he was done let him come when he wants, but she is taking that to far. What can he do? can he now text her and say look we need to follow the papers now? And file contempt charges if she doesn't? We are also not sure if she will try to get a pfa from the incident back in June, if she even gets the temp one for 30 days until court then hubby can't work his job =no pay!! Or wait til we can get the rest of the money together for an attorney and go that route??? Sorry so long we are just stuck and not sure what to do....Thanks so much!
