chelsey53805
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I'm gonna be very short and to the point. I just turned 18 in dec. I had my son when i was 17. He's now a year old as of feb. No one on my sons fathers side took interest until criminal charges were filed.
My sons father is a drug addict he's been on probation, countless drug rehabs, he's taken acid, cocaine, weed, its all altered his personality. My son's father didnt care that i was pregnant, after I gave birth a week later I called him and he still didnt care. When i filed for child support thats when he finally cared. He told me that he wanted him 50/50 but wouldn't take him 50/50 he just didnt want to have to pay child support. He even considered signing his rights off but thought you still had to pay child support. Then he began going to court for repeated sexual assualts of a child which was because of me. His mother and him havent talked for years since he was 13 when he moved out. After she found out he had a son she began talking to him and telling him that he should get custody, even though he truthfully doesnt want it. His mother wants my son as a replacement, honestly i dont think she cares if he sees him i think she wants him to mess up so she can take his rights. Then his mother begins threatening me telling me that if she doesnt get to have my son one day a week and every other weekend she's going to take me to court cuz she has a bunch of money saved up and when she's through with me im going to be in so much debt my heads spinning. Then his mother takes me to mediation i said 3 days a month supervised for 3 hours by me. I dont know this lady nor did i know she existed throughout our whole relationship (which lasted a little over a year, than i got pregnant then we broke up) he never once mentioned she was alive or that he had 2 sisters. His mother has called purposefully when im at work trying to tell my mother who is babysitting that i said it was ok for her to take my son although i didnt. He still doesnt work, still lives with his father, he's 28 years old and has not once made an attempt to see him. But now that his mother is talking to him again he acts like he cares and wants custody. Right now he can call to set up visitation whenever he wants as long as a lawyer is on the phone --- that was ordered in Jan. and he still hasnt done so. Now that he has to pay for a lawyer for custody (which im sure his mom is doing) and also a criminal lawyer his family wants me to pay. They want me to pay for whatever possible. Now my ex's father wants to take me to mediation. This is a child not a toy used for revenge. I have no idea how to find a lawyer to take my case probono or low income. We go back in July and I really need guidance. I've tried to be decent to these people but when I am they try to take advantage of me because I am young. I know i have missed parts but its getting long. Please assist in any way.
My sons father is a drug addict he's been on probation, countless drug rehabs, he's taken acid, cocaine, weed, its all altered his personality. My son's father didnt care that i was pregnant, after I gave birth a week later I called him and he still didnt care. When i filed for child support thats when he finally cared. He told me that he wanted him 50/50 but wouldn't take him 50/50 he just didnt want to have to pay child support. He even considered signing his rights off but thought you still had to pay child support. Then he began going to court for repeated sexual assualts of a child which was because of me. His mother and him havent talked for years since he was 13 when he moved out. After she found out he had a son she began talking to him and telling him that he should get custody, even though he truthfully doesnt want it. His mother wants my son as a replacement, honestly i dont think she cares if he sees him i think she wants him to mess up so she can take his rights. Then his mother begins threatening me telling me that if she doesnt get to have my son one day a week and every other weekend she's going to take me to court cuz she has a bunch of money saved up and when she's through with me im going to be in so much debt my heads spinning. Then his mother takes me to mediation i said 3 days a month supervised for 3 hours by me. I dont know this lady nor did i know she existed throughout our whole relationship (which lasted a little over a year, than i got pregnant then we broke up) he never once mentioned she was alive or that he had 2 sisters. His mother has called purposefully when im at work trying to tell my mother who is babysitting that i said it was ok for her to take my son although i didnt. He still doesnt work, still lives with his father, he's 28 years old and has not once made an attempt to see him. But now that his mother is talking to him again he acts like he cares and wants custody. Right now he can call to set up visitation whenever he wants as long as a lawyer is on the phone --- that was ordered in Jan. and he still hasnt done so. Now that he has to pay for a lawyer for custody (which im sure his mom is doing) and also a criminal lawyer his family wants me to pay. They want me to pay for whatever possible. Now my ex's father wants to take me to mediation. This is a child not a toy used for revenge. I have no idea how to find a lawyer to take my case probono or low income. We go back in July and I really need guidance. I've tried to be decent to these people but when I am they try to take advantage of me because I am young. I know i have missed parts but its getting long. Please assist in any way.
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