everest1974
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I am the father of an 11 year old boy. Since 2006 my son has lived with me during the week and stayed with his mother on the weekend.
In August, 2009 his mother lost her job and had nothing to do with her time. At that point she decided she wanted to stop paying child support and have her son return to week on week off custody. My son did NOT want to return to this since it had been almost 3 years in the current situation. The ordeal was particularly messy because at the time his mother lived with her boyfriend and his room mate in a 2 bedroom apartment. Meaning when he was at her house for the week, he would be sleeping on a futon in the living room.
Believing that his mother did have a right to see her son, I went along with this agreement. My son dreaded going over to his mothers house. In his own words all that happened when he was that was her telling him what a bad son he was because he didn't call her during his week with his father. When it would come time for my son to spend the week back with me, he would cry and say how much he hated going to her house. It really bothered him that he was sleeping on a futon in the living room. My response was that we would wait until November to see if she would get a job and a better living arrangement.
Then in September she accepted a job in California. We live in Utah. She packed up, and moved to Corona California on October 2, 2009. She left my son with me and arranged nothing as far as the next time she wants to see him again. She kept saying she wanted to make an arrangements but not once did she.
Since October 2, I have had 100% custody. His mother has sent no $$ for child support since our old agreement dates back to 2004 when we were originally divorced and had 50/50 custody. Her exact words are "we do not have anything official that states that I have a financial obligation to you". What do I need to do to change that? Is there any way to protect my son from his mom just barging into his world and ripping him out of his comfort zone? Since she is only going to see her son maybe 1 weekend out of the month can she have joint custody? And she tells me that it will be my responsibility to pay 1/2 of the travel expenses when he does fly out to see her. How is this possible? She moved away.
Anyone who can advise from past experience, or with any legal advise, my son and I would be so appreciative.
In August, 2009 his mother lost her job and had nothing to do with her time. At that point she decided she wanted to stop paying child support and have her son return to week on week off custody. My son did NOT want to return to this since it had been almost 3 years in the current situation. The ordeal was particularly messy because at the time his mother lived with her boyfriend and his room mate in a 2 bedroom apartment. Meaning when he was at her house for the week, he would be sleeping on a futon in the living room.
Believing that his mother did have a right to see her son, I went along with this agreement. My son dreaded going over to his mothers house. In his own words all that happened when he was that was her telling him what a bad son he was because he didn't call her during his week with his father. When it would come time for my son to spend the week back with me, he would cry and say how much he hated going to her house. It really bothered him that he was sleeping on a futon in the living room. My response was that we would wait until November to see if she would get a job and a better living arrangement.
Then in September she accepted a job in California. We live in Utah. She packed up, and moved to Corona California on October 2, 2009. She left my son with me and arranged nothing as far as the next time she wants to see him again. She kept saying she wanted to make an arrangements but not once did she.
Since October 2, I have had 100% custody. His mother has sent no $$ for child support since our old agreement dates back to 2004 when we were originally divorced and had 50/50 custody. Her exact words are "we do not have anything official that states that I have a financial obligation to you". What do I need to do to change that? Is there any way to protect my son from his mom just barging into his world and ripping him out of his comfort zone? Since she is only going to see her son maybe 1 weekend out of the month can she have joint custody? And she tells me that it will be my responsibility to pay 1/2 of the travel expenses when he does fly out to see her. How is this possible? She moved away.
Anyone who can advise from past experience, or with any legal advise, my son and I would be so appreciative.
