ConcernedDAD09
New Member
My ex and I are in the process of getting divorced. We have 4 children together all under the age of 10. She already had a child prior to our marriage and since our separation (2 years now) has already had another child by another man. Our relationship dissolved because of her adultery. She has denied me visitation of our children since having the new child which has now almost been a year. She has at least 3 men in and out of the house - I know this via ex's mouth as well as the children. 1 of the men is now currently in jail for attempted murder charges and have found out he is an alleged gang member. I cannot afford an attorney and live 4 hours away from my children and can not get legal aid. She "lost" her job 6 months ago and is on government assistance. I am appalled to find out that, my ex is again pregnant!!! That makes her having to take care of 7 children!! She can't raise them alone and could hardly handle it with my help when we had 5 children and I was there daily!!! She's making the other child her co-parent and she's having real issues. My ex finally served me with divorce papers a month ago. I completed my response orginally saying that I would like custody, but would be willing to agree to a set visitation schedule. I did this prior to knowing that she was pregnant again. I am only concerned for my children's welfare, they can't be getting the attention and care they deserve. Now my ex has called me and wants me to contact her lawyer to discuss the visitation arrangement prior to the holidays and that she filed a mandatory disclosure as well. I don't know what to do or file at this point. I want custody of my 4 chilldren. I do not trust that she is making responsible, healthy decisions regarding our or any of her children. She's become an extremely selfish, self centered person and no longer seems to be a responsible mother. Do I agree to the visitation schedule so I can see my children for the holidays at the very least or is there something else I should do so that I can get custody? We don't even have a final hearing scheduled yet. What should I do?
