Thanks Judge, That is exactly what I hope to do if I can make this stick. The Ex has a drinking problem and I think the kids should be with me because of it. Up to this point though, every couple years, she screws up and nothing really sticks. In the last ten years she and been put in the detox center twice, in county jail to detox once and was on probation for this DUI at the time of divorce but the family law judge wouldn't give that info any merit and awarded her the kids anyway. I have had my share of drinking issues in the past but have been clean since 2005 when I went through an out patient program, that didn't seem to help me here though.
My concern about going to her PO is that I will sound like a disgruntled ex trying to harass her. I almost could not get the local police to go to her house the other night for the same reason and I am not sure the officer will have put anything down about her drinking at all in the report because he said "it's a Friday night and they had a few drinks at home, not a big deal". I had to remind him that she is on probation and, though I am not sure of her terms, I am pretty sure that not consuming alcohol is one of them. That said, I am not real sure that the report will end up being very helpful if all it says is that they went at my request and did a well check. Then I totally look like the crazy jelous Ex.
I have to find something the will expose her though because she regularly drinks to excess with my kids there. Since the DUI she just knows to do it at home so she has never failed to start the tester on the car or any of the random screens (the place she goes to blow weekly schedules her to come in every Tuesday so she knows not to drink from Sunday afternoon on, not very random) She has truley figured out how to work the system and continue to drink to excess every weekend. I call her teflon Mary.