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OHIO- I was served an ex parte Domestic Violence Civil Pro. Order. I was in a verbal altercation with my wife, which escalated into her telling me to leave her apartment (her lease). I was trying to leave and she leaned on the door and then wouldn't allow me to leave. This then escalated into another argument with her ripping off her rings and giving them to me and my finally being able to rush out the door and leave cities. I then e-mailed her and let her know she could have any of my belongings left behind and my direct deposited paycheck. After 2 days of my not coming back to her she decided to try to make a case of DV with the DA. She was turned down and then went for a CPO and was granted the ex parte. Can I go to jail through this civil case? I will certainly not break any CPO orders.
I feel a CPO will protect ME from her harassing me any further. This entire order is based upon her being vindictive and not being in fear of me. I have never struck her or anything. She did make false allegations against me during the ex parte hearing, claiming I have hit her and choked her in the past. She is trying to get the courts to force counseling on me, which I firmly believe should be presented to her. She has severe anger management issues and constantly wanted to start fights with me, which I avoid and generally left the apartment and drove around for a while. This time she wouldn't allow me to leave and I had no phone or anything to call the police. It is her word against mine, as there were no witnesses. She claimed to have small bruises and scratches on her finger when she ripped her rings off and gave them to me. She called the police on me once prior when we lived out of state in an similar situation. The police did not arrest me, as I did nothing to hurt her, nor left any marks on her. (Yes I know, I should have left her for good then as the officer at the scene recommended). Anyway, the DA said her apparent injuries (which I didn't even do) weren't enough to make a case against me, nor were there any witnesses. She used manipulation of being scared of me based upon this evidence to get back at me for not going back to her this time. What are my options? I really don't want to see her face again and would be happy to have a CPO that would keep her from trying to contact me as well, etc. Thanks for any help.
I am mainly worried about possible jail time or probation. I am not sure if either of these can occur during a CPO final hearing or afterwards. Like I said, I will certainly not break any of the CPO orders and am staying as far away from her as possible. P.S. upon arriving at my new residence, I discovered my wife had got into my e-mail accounts and Facebook and changed all of my passwords (we shared our passwords as we had nothing to hide). It was only through security questions that I was able to restore most of my e-mail accounts and my Facebook page. I have since changed passwords and questions and have removed all linked associations to my wife from my Facebook page and then disabled it for the time being. I am trying to protect myself in case she tries to e-mail herself from one of my e-mail accounts or something to claim I have broken the ex parte and/or future CPO if one occurs.
I do not know if my wife will attend the hearing with an attorney and I hadn't planned on getting one if I do attend. I have received some information from other sources that state I should definitely attend because it is possible that the CPO be dismissed or an agreement made between my wife and I. I was thinking of preparing a statement to read to the court which provides information of what occurred that night--that I was barricaded in her apartment and she wouldn't let me leave prior to any altercation. Also information of my being cursed out by her on a daily basis and having been smacked by her and hit with a board game she threw at me in the past. She is reciting previous events, several of which are false, so should I write in my statement things she has done to me where she was both physically and passively aggressive? Keep in mind that no 3rd parties have EVER seen her and I get into anything more than a brief verbal altercation in public (1 witness and no yelling involved, just obvious statements that we were mad at each other) and that was only one time. There are zero witnesses in this entire case--her word against mine. My record is 100% clean and I am a licensed school teacher with high character. I don't know what to do with her trying to get back at me for not taking her back this time.
I feel a CPO will protect ME from her harassing me any further. This entire order is based upon her being vindictive and not being in fear of me. I have never struck her or anything. She did make false allegations against me during the ex parte hearing, claiming I have hit her and choked her in the past. She is trying to get the courts to force counseling on me, which I firmly believe should be presented to her. She has severe anger management issues and constantly wanted to start fights with me, which I avoid and generally left the apartment and drove around for a while. This time she wouldn't allow me to leave and I had no phone or anything to call the police. It is her word against mine, as there were no witnesses. She claimed to have small bruises and scratches on her finger when she ripped her rings off and gave them to me. She called the police on me once prior when we lived out of state in an similar situation. The police did not arrest me, as I did nothing to hurt her, nor left any marks on her. (Yes I know, I should have left her for good then as the officer at the scene recommended). Anyway, the DA said her apparent injuries (which I didn't even do) weren't enough to make a case against me, nor were there any witnesses. She used manipulation of being scared of me based upon this evidence to get back at me for not going back to her this time. What are my options? I really don't want to see her face again and would be happy to have a CPO that would keep her from trying to contact me as well, etc. Thanks for any help.
I am mainly worried about possible jail time or probation. I am not sure if either of these can occur during a CPO final hearing or afterwards. Like I said, I will certainly not break any of the CPO orders and am staying as far away from her as possible. P.S. upon arriving at my new residence, I discovered my wife had got into my e-mail accounts and Facebook and changed all of my passwords (we shared our passwords as we had nothing to hide). It was only through security questions that I was able to restore most of my e-mail accounts and my Facebook page. I have since changed passwords and questions and have removed all linked associations to my wife from my Facebook page and then disabled it for the time being. I am trying to protect myself in case she tries to e-mail herself from one of my e-mail accounts or something to claim I have broken the ex parte and/or future CPO if one occurs.
I do not know if my wife will attend the hearing with an attorney and I hadn't planned on getting one if I do attend. I have received some information from other sources that state I should definitely attend because it is possible that the CPO be dismissed or an agreement made between my wife and I. I was thinking of preparing a statement to read to the court which provides information of what occurred that night--that I was barricaded in her apartment and she wouldn't let me leave prior to any altercation. Also information of my being cursed out by her on a daily basis and having been smacked by her and hit with a board game she threw at me in the past. She is reciting previous events, several of which are false, so should I write in my statement things she has done to me where she was both physically and passively aggressive? Keep in mind that no 3rd parties have EVER seen her and I get into anything more than a brief verbal altercation in public (1 witness and no yelling involved, just obvious statements that we were mad at each other) and that was only one time. There are zero witnesses in this entire case--her word against mine. My record is 100% clean and I am a licensed school teacher with high character. I don't know what to do with her trying to get back at me for not taking her back this time.
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