Childrens home society and my child

[Lesa]

I have been an alcoholic for 18 months... Binge drinker..one day I picked up a beer and never set one down. My husband was leaving for offshore work with the navy was afraid I would not be able to take care of our 5 year old son, so he had me marchman acted into detox. there I did 5 days of detox therapy and when I came out I started AA meetings.. On the third day I was out DCF came and took my son away and placed him with a family memeber until A. my husband returns..
B. I complete 1 month of out patient counseling,4 clean U?A's alcohol free and only perscribed medications allowed..
everyday they change these rules on my..I was able to see my son supervised w/o overnight stays.. only on weekends
then no weekends I have to see him only on weekdays..then now I am only allowed 2 hrs a day and it takes 3 hours to get to where he is at. I have tried to get him moved back to my county to live with my mother, and waiting for an approval..they are telling me I need a lawyer but I can't afford one but they claim we make to much money..I do not understand why I need a lawyer when they are gonna do what they are gonna do anyways..I never hurt my child,would never hurt him,never had a DUI or reckless driving charges..Why are they being so hard with me? I just want my son home in time for his first day of kindergarden, I can still complete my counseling and u/a's and have my mother come live with me so my son will be home and ready for school... They keep changing the rules on my situation and I am helpless against them.

 

[seniorjudge]

Q: Why are they being so hard on me?

A: I have been an alcoholic for 18 months... Binge drinker..one day I picked up a beer and never set one down.

 

[Lesa]

thanks senoir but I really do not understand the quote..I have been sober for 36 days straight..I am doing what is asked.. they came up with this I haven't been compliant with outpatient counseling which at the time of release from detox they were going to send me an appointment time and place..I recieved nothing I called them back counsler was not in..on my 3rd week I went to see my case worker who told me I was incompliant with outpatient counseling so I went to the detox center there they told me they never scheduled me because Children's home society does their own counseling and they do not double book, so detox assumed CHS was doing my counseling and at the same time CHS thought detox was doing my counseling while I am waiting for my paperwork and appointment time I own my own sought counsel through AA twice a day...Now it's my fault why? I can't help but think they are trying me to see how much they could give me before I break..But I won't break...I will play by their silly rules, just to have my son home with me.but I still do not get it.

 

[irish223]

Congratulations on 36 days sober. That's a good start.

It may seem like they're making you jump through lots of hoops, but it is their responsibility to insure that your son is protected. While 36 days is commendable, it pales in comparison to your previous 18 months. Also, your husband initiated this action, presumably because you were neglectful. You will have to continue to follow through on everything they ask until they decide that returning your son to you is in his best interests.

Even if you can't afford a lawyer, you can probably find one who offers free or low-cost initial consultations. In the first meeting, you may be able to find out if there is anything you can pursue legally.

Good Luck, and don't let it break you!

 

[Lesa]

well they told us at the last hearing we did not qualify for public counsel...my husband by himself makes over 100K a year but we have expenses as well but they do not look at that...I understand it's for the best for my son but he stats kindergarden on the 18th, my mother took off two months to come stay with me and at first they said that was fine. now that she took off the two months or until my husband returns they have yet to allow her custody..she lives a mile from me different school district,she'd have to drive him and pick him up.Everyday there are new rules, I am trying to do as they say follow their directions to get things done but they are making it soo hard to keep up with all the rule changes,....