I was dating someone for a short period of time and I became pregnant. He is not the most upstanding person. After finding out that he has issues with taking a bunch of different types of drugs and his unstable x girlfriend, I became worried about his parental abilities. He has a 6yr old with this ex girlfriend and I don't think that he has any legal obligation with the courts. Atually this ex girlfriend is not an ex. She still stays the night at his house and they still see eachother so not sure if I should call her an ex or not. Anyways she has sent me some nasty emails and text messages. The messages are not really theatning but she makes me nervous because he has told me that she has threatened to Murder him and broke into his house at night while he was sleeping and stabbed him several times with scissors when she found out that I was pregnant, but he doesn't do anything about it because he has drugs in the house and doesn't want to get in trouble. Not only does he deal illegal drugs and perscription drugs he is a bookie too. With several different unsavory characters coming and going from his house all hours of the night. My question is I need to get finacial help by filing for child support but I am scared that he will get some visitaion rights if he pays. I am just so scared for my son to be in his care for any period of time. How can I prove that he is a unfit parent? Can I demand a drug test or try to get suppervised visitation and this girlfriend he has makes me nervous too!
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Child support
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Gail_in_Georgia
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If the child even born yet? If so, has paternity been established?
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Gail
You got pregnant by him it is too late to claim he is unfit. If you expect child support, his rights will be established and he very likely will be granted visitation. There is nothing in your post indicating this child is in any danger with him because you will not be able to prove it. You can ask for supervised visits. If he gets an attorney you will need one too. So if you really do not want him to have anything to do with this child, don't file for child support or government assistrance. Be more careful on who you have babies with.
Oh forgot to add that I have already talked to a lawyer and plan to have him work on this for me. I can't help the fact that this man is a good liar and found this out after the fact! You never really no anyone so you should be more aware that people lie and put up a front how do you really know anyone? Not like I knew he was such a looser. At least I'm not trying to stay with the jerk!
Gail_in_Georgia
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Because you two are not married, legally he is not the father until (and unless) paternity is established through testing.
Gail
Gail
Not sure why you think I am a jerk. It is obvious. You got pregnant by him he is the dad and he will have rights. He also may not even pay any child support. If I were you I would not want him to have anything to do with my child. The safety of my child is not worth whatever piddly amount you might get from him plus he already has a child to take care of. Think about that. If he is that big of a loser I wouldnt want anything to do with him. There is nothing keeping him from taking you to court though.
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