HelplessFather
New Member
I'm a father to a beautiful; almost 3 year old daughter. She lives in Bakersfield, CA with her stripper, pill addicted, alcoholic mother and newly married junkie husband.
At the moment I have a car that works and a place to stay with 2 roommates. I've been looking for stable and steady work for 1.4 years now. Also how long I've been sober and active in AA. Finding jobs has been hard for me. Just paying rent and eating has been a nightmare. I'd LOVE to send money or whatever to my daughter but I don't want it falling directly into the mothers and fathers hands for obvious reasons.
Questions:
1. What are the laws of child support state to state? Can I somehow set up a recognized payment system to her relatives that will spend the money on my daughter?
2. I have no income. I'm on food stamps... Etc... I hate it but I have to survive somehow. How does custody work in this situation? If I'm clean and they aren't... Plus she and he have documented criminal and mental illness history.
3. I'm civil with the mom as of recently and got to actually speak to my daughter and I haven't been that happy in a long time. .... What's going to happen in this type of situation? What could happen? Should happen? What do I do?
Thank you,
-J
At the moment I have a car that works and a place to stay with 2 roommates. I've been looking for stable and steady work for 1.4 years now. Also how long I've been sober and active in AA. Finding jobs has been hard for me. Just paying rent and eating has been a nightmare. I'd LOVE to send money or whatever to my daughter but I don't want it falling directly into the mothers and fathers hands for obvious reasons.
Questions:
1. What are the laws of child support state to state? Can I somehow set up a recognized payment system to her relatives that will spend the money on my daughter?
2. I have no income. I'm on food stamps... Etc... I hate it but I have to survive somehow. How does custody work in this situation? If I'm clean and they aren't... Plus she and he have documented criminal and mental illness history.
3. I'm civil with the mom as of recently and got to actually speak to my daughter and I haven't been that happy in a long time. .... What's going to happen in this type of situation? What could happen? Should happen? What do I do?
Thank you,
-J