Child support and visitation

[juliana39]

My ex husband and I first put into our legal separation papers that each of us are to tell the other when and where we moved. However, he never told me when and where he moved when he moved to another state and won't allow me to move with the kids out of Colorado. He has pending charges of Distribution of Child Porn and has a police record with domestic abuse charges up the ying yang with me. He has supervised visitation with the kids, I made it only once a month. I don't like the kids seeing him. They have confusion on how to feel about him. The kids have caught him in lies and are only going willingly for the free food he buys them. He works under the table in Nebraska, I am owed $11,000 in child support arrears. I cannot afford a PI to get the proof that he works. Last year he came to Colorado, stayed the week with his brother and worked in road construction as he has for the past 25 plus years. We are basically starving and broke as all get out, I can't find a steady income. He lives with his girlfriend on a ranch living high on the hog. He also has a high profiled lawyer in Denver, CO. I want my child support and I want to move without his BS and his visitations. He is dangerous to me and to the kids, but convincing the courts, that's another story. I need help.

 

[army judge]

My ex husband and I first put into our legal separation papers that each of us are to tell the other when and where we moved. However, he never told me when and where he moved when he moved to another state and won't allow me to move with the kids out of Colorado. He has pending charges of Distribution of Child Porn and has a police record with domestic abuse charges up the ying yang with me. He has supervised visitation with the kids, I made it only once a month. I don't like the kids seeing him. They have confusion on how to feel about him. The kids have caught him in lies and are only going willingly for the free food he buys them. He works under the table in Nebraska, I am owed $11,000 in child support arrears. I cannot afford a PI to get the proof that he works. Last year he came to Colorado, stayed the week with his brother and worked in road construction as he has for the past 25 plus years. We are basically starving and broke as all get out, I can't find a steady income. He lives with his girlfriend on a ranch living high on the hog. He also has a high profiled lawyer in Denver, CO. I want my child support and I want to move without his BS and his visitations. He is dangerous to me and to the kids, but convincing the courts, that's another story. I need help.

Your story has left me speechless and angry.
I know there are bad people in this world.
I'm sorry you ran into one and had babies by him.

I can't offer you any useful advice, other than to see if you can get in touch with the law clinic at a local law school.
I see you live in Colorado, so here are the links (or contact info) to a couple options.

http://www.colorado.edu/law/clinics/legalaid/clinic.htm

Colorado (pro bono)
(303) 860-1115

http://www.coadvocatesforum.org/index.cfm

http://www.coloradolegalservices.org/co/index.cfm

http://endabuse.org/

Have you gone to the prosecutor ot the district attorney and told them your story?

If not, give it a try.

Your county should have a local domestic violence support group.

The county sheriff or local police might know how to get in contact with them.


They know how to contact Nebraska authorities, so you can tell them what a certain someone has been doing.

Good bless and good luck.

 

[Duranie]

If he is a danger to the kids I would not want anything from him. You cannot expect child support and for him to not have any rights. He doesnt pay anyways. You are going to have to petition the court to move and if you can prove a financial hardship you have a good chance of getting awarded it. This guy sounds like a loser though and the more you fight him for money, the more he will want to see the kids.

 

[amotts1448]

I have no advice for you; however, I know exactly what it is like trying to prove to the courts what life is ACTUALLY like for you and your children. The mother of my children has custody of our kids and I have a court ordered visitation schedule. She will not allow me to see them and no one will enforce the court order. I know what those kids go thru on a daily basis; she has had more than 10 CPS cases since we seperated. (When we were together, we never had problems with CPS) Yet, somehow, she has custody and is able to deny my visitation. My children are currently calling me several times a day wanting to know when I am coming to get them. They are clearly suffering, which breaks my heart, and I cannot find anyone to help me.