Child Support and Visitation

[rbolender]

I am going to try to make a long story semi short so bare with me.

July of last year my boyfriend (now ex) found out we were pregnant. 4 months later I caught him cheating on me. I tried working things out and even paid for us to see a counselor. He continued to see the other woman so I called it quits for the sake of my health during my pregnancy. It was causing me way too much stress.

In January I received a letter in my mailbox from my childs father. The letter said : I "exs name" here by give up all rights to child had with "my name". In the result of this I would like no contact from "my name" and I will not contact her or anyone in her family.
He signed it, had a friend witness it and had it notarized.

My son was born the end of March. I have had no contact with my childs father n(at his request) and he has not tried to contact me.

My son is on the state insurance so I am now getting letters requesting his fathers information for child support purposes or they are going to take away my sons insurance.

My question is, if I give them the information and I begin recieving child support, if he chooses to try to get visitation just because he has to pay now what are the odds of him getting some kind of visitation?

I should include that he lives in an unhealthy place. An apartment above a garage (carbon monoxide) that is not even 400 sq ft.

He has not provided anything for my son nor has he made any attempt to see him. He is well aware that our son was born because I informed his step mother the day after he was born.

If he were to get visitation would it be under my supervision? He has never cared for a child a day in his life.

 

[Proserpina]

That notarized document is worthless. It honestly means nothing at all.

If Dad chooses to file for visitation he'll likely get it, though it may be graduated and supervised at first. If all goes well, eventually it will lead to longer periods (and overnights), unsupervised.

Unfortunately for you, you really don't have any choice in complying with the State, otherwise your son's health insurance will disappear.

 

[army judge]

I am going to try to make a long story semi short so bare with me.

July of last year my boyfriend (now ex) found out we were pregnant. 4 months later I caught him cheating on me. I tried working things out and even paid for us to see a counselor. He continued to see the other woman so I called it quits for the sake of my health during my pregnancy. It was causing me way too much stress.

In January I received a letter in my mailbox from my childs father. The letter said : I "exs name" here by give up all rights to child had with "my name". In the result of this I would like no contact from "my name" and I will not contact her or anyone in her family.
He signed it, had a friend witness it and had it notarized.

My son was born the end of March. I have had no contact with my childs father n(at his request) and he has not tried to contact me.

My son is on the state insurance so I am now getting letters requesting his fathers information for child support purposes or they are going to take away my sons insurance.

My question is, if I give them the information and I begin recieving child support, if he chooses to try to get visitation just because he has to pay now what are the odds of him getting some kind of visitation?

I should include that he lives in an unhealthy place. An apartment above a garage (carbon monoxide) that is not even 400 sq ft.

He has not provided anything for my son nor has he made any attempt to see him. He is well aware that our son was born because I informed his step mother the day after he was born.

If he were to get visitation would it be under my supervision? He has never cared for a child a day in his life.

There are several answers to that question.

I'm recommending none of them to you.

I'm just sharing them with you.

Some women answer the question in this manner: "I don't know who the child's father is. It was a one night stand, and I never even knew his name."

Some women, I've been told say this, "I was raped. I never reported the rape to the police. It is such a bad memory, I've blocked it out of my consciousness. So, I guess I don't know the name of my rapist, the child's father."

Some women give them name of the man they believe to be the father. The man that was named can request DNA testing, if he believes himself not to be the father.

 

[Proserpina]

Some women answer the question in this manner: "I don't know who the child's father is. It was a one night stand, and I never even knew his name."

John Doe service becomes necessary. Then there's also perjury.

Some women, I've been told say this, "I was raped. I never reported the rape to the police. It is such a bad memory, I've blocked it out of my consciousness. So, I guess I don't know the name of my rapist, the child's father."

John Doe service becomes necessary. And to add insult to make-believe injury, the State will NOT believe OP without a police report.

Some women give them name of the man they believe to be the father. The man that was named can request DNA testing, if he believes himself not to be the father.

OP, please understand that if you don't cooperate you CAN be penalized regardless of whatever else you read here.

YOU can be penalized and so can your son.

 

[army judge]

John Doe service becomes necessary. Then there's also perjury.

Some women, I've been told say this, "I was raped. I never reported the rape to the police. It is such a bad memory, I've blocked it out of my conscio

John Doe service becomes necessary. And to add insult to make-believe injury, the State will NOT believe OP without a police report.

Some women give them name of the man they believe to be the father. The man that was named can request DNA testing, if he believes himself not to be the father.

YOU can be penalized and so can your son.

Sadly, the poor kid is already being penalized.

 

[Duranie]

One you go on taxpayer assistance you lose the right to leave the father anonymous. You must identify him. The judge is not going to buy that you do know. What you have posted has VERY little relevence to his rights. He may file for visitastion yes and that is his right. You can ask fo supervised at first, which will be likely but I suggest you 2 start communicating and learn how to co-parent. The baby is still VERY young now so there is lots of time for Dad to still form a relationship.

 

[rbolender]

1. I know the letter he had notarized is worthless is court and what not. I was just letting people know more into my story and felt that it was a factor that needed to be thrown in. Because that letter is the reason why I have not contacted him.

2. Yes, my son is being penalized but that is not my fault. His father is the one not wanting to be involved and there is nothing I can do about that.

3. I tried the best of my ability to make it so that we could "co-parent". I tried working things out in the beginning and made it very clear to my childs father that even if we couldnt make our relationship work that I would still want him to be involved in his sons life and I would do the best I could to be civil with him at all times. So don't say that I need to learn how to co-parent. I have done my fair share and I cannot force his father to be in his life and thats all there is to it.

I have been raising my son on my own with no help. The only reason why I am concerned about visitation is because I am worried about my sons well being. He deserves to have a father in his life who actually wants to be there, not just because he has to dish out money to help support him. And like I said, he has never cared for a child a day in his life and he lives in an unsafe place. And with me being his mother, I should be able to worry about those things and not have to feel guilty about it.

 

[Duranie]

The legal standard of parenting is VERY low. You chose him to father your child, so now you must deal with him. You really have no proof at all that he is unfit. The courts are not going to limit his rights based on "what if's". If you communicate with Dad you might get further than fighting him. He will probably get some visitation even if its supervised.