Child Custody with spouses EX

[jshoes1]

My fiance was previously married and has 3 kids with his ex. She is a monster to deal with when it comes to the children. She is always telling my fiance what a horrible father he is because things don't go her way and she's having a bad day. She is great and gets along fine with my ex when things are going her way and life is good for her, but if something happens with the kids or she's in a "mood" then all heck breaks loose on my ex. She will tell him that his kids hate coming to his house, and that he never does anything for him. All of this is untrue and we've had talkd with his kids and they love coming to his house and he is a great father to them. It all reality she is the parent that wants to be their "friend". She has no bed time for them during the school year (the kids are 6, 7, 10), they have no discipline at her house and the personal hygeine she teaches them is far from good. We are so tired of our lives constantly being in turmoil because of this woman!! What can we do to stop this???

 

[army judge]

My fiance was previously married and has 3 kids with his ex. She is a monster to deal with when it comes to the children. She is always telling my fiance what a horrible father he is because things don't go her way and she's having a bad day. She is great and gets along fine with my ex when things are going her way and life is good for her, but if something happens with the kids or she's in a "mood" then all heck breaks loose on my ex. She will tell him that his kids hate coming to his house, and that he never does anything for him. All of this is untrue and we've had talkd with his kids and they love coming to his house and he is a great father to them. It all reality she is the parent that wants to be their "friend". She has no bed time for them during the school year (the kids are 6, 7, 10), they have no discipline at her house and the personal hygeine she teaches them is far from good. We are so tired of our lives constantly being in turmoil because of this woman!! What can we do to stop this???

Nothing.
All you can do is ignore her and avoid having any conversations with her.
You don't have to listen to her rants.
Just excuse your self, and walk away.
If she calls, tell her goodbye, you have to go.
Talk to her ONLY about the children, nothing else.
Why worry about what gossip and lies she spews?
He chose that cow to breed, and now he has to live with that decision for at least 12 more years.
Some mistakes you can forget.
Some mistakes linger for a very long time.

 

[lonelyinny]

not your issue to deal with

My fiance was previously married and has 3 kids with his ex. She is a monster to deal with when it comes to the children. She is always telling my fiance what a horrible father he is because things don't go her way and she's having a bad day. She is great and gets along fine with my ex when things are going her way and life is good for her, but if something happens with the kids or she's in a "mood" then all heck breaks loose on my ex. She will tell him that his kids hate coming to his house, and that he never does anything for him. All of this is untrue and we've had talkd with his kids and they love coming to his house and he is a great father to them. It all reality she is the parent that wants to be their "friend". She has no bed time for them during the school year (the kids are 6, 7, 10), they have no discipline at her house and the personal hygeine she teaches them is far from good. We are so tired of our lives constantly being in turmoil because of this woman!! What can we do to stop this???

WE cant do anything. this is your finace's issue to deal with, and doesnt legally concern you.you are a legal stranger here, and have no part of this family and no say. let him deal with it, and stay out of it, your involvement will do him more harm then good