Child custody Fight

[mlee88]

I am currently pregnant with my ex boyfriends baby and he keeps consantly threatening me that he is going to take the baby away from me as soon as it is born. He sends me texts like see you in court b*tch and stuff like that, and I dont know what to do because he does have something he can possibly use against me but I was mad at the time, and I had just found out I was pregnant and I didnt know what to do except get an abortion, so I sent him text like im going to end up having a miscarrying it anyways, but I didnt mean un purpose I meant because of all the stress and him and I went to the abortion clinic and I had gone inside but I just couldnt go through with it, I couldnt do it. And since I said I wanted to get an abortion and I had said I was going to end up misscarying it I dont know if he can really take the baby from me. I'm not a mean person and I want to keep my baby I was thinking about maybe when its born that I can say it doesnt have a father and that way he cant have any say on it. I just dont know what to do I dont want to loose my baby, I also have text from him saying that he is to drunk to know what is going on and such. So help me I need to know what to do, apparently he already has a lawyer.

 

[ohiogranny]

It is not his child until he files in court for paternity/parenting time/child support. He can't take the child from you, it's not his child till he does all that. Even after he is proven to be the father, he can't just keep the child away from you without a court order. At birth, you have custody as you're not married. When he files for parenting time, he will be given some, unless you can prove he is an immediate danger to the child. Your state may have guidelines for time with a newborn.

You don't have to list him as the father on the paperwork for the birth certificate, but that doesn't stop him from proving it's his child, and the BC can be changed to reflect that. Baby doesn't have to have his last name, you can name him/her unless dad files to have it changed or hyphenated.

As for the abortion issue, you had every right to make that choice for yourself, one way or the other. And you chose to keep the baby. He can't hold that against you. He had sex with you, there is always the chance a baby will result. Sounds like he's mad that you changed your mind.

Let him take you to court. You will get things on paper so that both of you will have to play by the rules.

 

[Duranie]

as long as you do not go on public assistance and dad never files anything with the courts, you do not have to establish paternity. Figure out how you are going to support this child on your own if you do not want him involved. I would just totally stop communicating with him.