Hello,
I am hoping someone can help me. I am a newly divorced father of 4 in Brevard COunty. My divorce was finalized 7/25/07. I agreed to a Marital Settlement Agreement which gave my ex wife Primary Residential Parent, and I am now faced with a dilemma.
For the past 9 years she has exhibited erractic behavior, and in 2005 was diagnosed with a severe mental illness (Personality Disorder). I agreed to the MSA in order to give the kids access to us both, and to try to keep the animosity between us at bay, in hopes that appeasing her, would lead to a better relationship. The fact is, I have the children MORE than she does, and NEITHER of us pays the other any support.
My 10 year old son came to a friend of mine, and stated to the him that he was afraid to live at mom's house because his mom told him that her new fiance was an alcholic and drank all day long. My friend told me, and I asked my son if this was true. He stated that it was. I called his mother and asked to speak to her about it. She confirmed my sons statements, not only to me, but to him as well.
She asked me to help her out of the situation, and much to my regret, I did. So did my friend. After much advice, and helping her find a new place to live, she went back to him, and retracted her statements. I in fact, spoke to the fiance, and filled him in on why he couldnt have my children at his home. They spoke, and she now claims that she never said anything of the kind and that the kids are safe.
There are a wealth of other things involved, but my question is, based on the fact that the divorce is new, what is the easiest way to re gain custody for me? I feel that confiding in a 10 year old, adult matters, scaring him so much that he sought someone else, is abusive from her. Additionally, I cannot vouch for the truth in anything she says, as the whole statement she made to me, may have a ploy to get out of the relationship she is in. SHe abandoned me and the kids last year for 2 months, and Ilost work and had to sell my home to get out from under it. I never raised any of this in court, because I ran out of money, and had no attorney. She is unstable, and now, out of control, and I am afraid that the kids are being mentally harmed by her when in her presence.
Any help is appreciated
mark93
I am hoping someone can help me. I am a newly divorced father of 4 in Brevard COunty. My divorce was finalized 7/25/07. I agreed to a Marital Settlement Agreement which gave my ex wife Primary Residential Parent, and I am now faced with a dilemma.
For the past 9 years she has exhibited erractic behavior, and in 2005 was diagnosed with a severe mental illness (Personality Disorder). I agreed to the MSA in order to give the kids access to us both, and to try to keep the animosity between us at bay, in hopes that appeasing her, would lead to a better relationship. The fact is, I have the children MORE than she does, and NEITHER of us pays the other any support.
My 10 year old son came to a friend of mine, and stated to the him that he was afraid to live at mom's house because his mom told him that her new fiance was an alcholic and drank all day long. My friend told me, and I asked my son if this was true. He stated that it was. I called his mother and asked to speak to her about it. She confirmed my sons statements, not only to me, but to him as well.
She asked me to help her out of the situation, and much to my regret, I did. So did my friend. After much advice, and helping her find a new place to live, she went back to him, and retracted her statements. I in fact, spoke to the fiance, and filled him in on why he couldnt have my children at his home. They spoke, and she now claims that she never said anything of the kind and that the kids are safe.
There are a wealth of other things involved, but my question is, based on the fact that the divorce is new, what is the easiest way to re gain custody for me? I feel that confiding in a 10 year old, adult matters, scaring him so much that he sought someone else, is abusive from her. Additionally, I cannot vouch for the truth in anything she says, as the whole statement she made to me, may have a ploy to get out of the relationship she is in. SHe abandoned me and the kids last year for 2 months, and Ilost work and had to sell my home to get out from under it. I never raised any of this in court, because I ran out of money, and had no attorney. She is unstable, and now, out of control, and I am afraid that the kids are being mentally harmed by her when in her presence.
Any help is appreciated
mark93
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