I am the father of 3 children (10, 14, 16). I have had sole custody of them for over 8 years. Their birth mother has visitations. The 16 & 10 year olds have expressed their desire to have visitations upon their request instead of a standardized schedule. The 14 year old is starting to feel the same way. Their mother has made it a habit recently to drive the children on a suspended license and not require seat belts. After todays incident of not having seat belts available the kids no longer feel safe with her. Is it possible to have the visitation changed upon the kids request? FYI - she has never followed any of the court orders that are in place to pay child support or medical support.
Change of visitation schedule
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jharris352
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How is it that seat belts are not "available" to the kids? Did she cut them out? Driving on a suspended license is a problem because her insurance will not cover any accidents. But if the children have health insurance it isn't an offence against your children.
Forgive me for being cynical, in divorce and custody cases (which I deal with a lot) spouses tend to try to put the worst face on the other spouse.
When you say the kids want control of the visits what do you mean? If they want more visits, you can just allow that. If they want less you can't change that. You can ask the Court to change it because of inability to parent or misconduct, but most likely that is a waste of time.
Your ex has a right to visit her children too even if the teens don't want to be bothered with their mother. So the Court is not going to end visitation because the "kids" want it that way. Besides the Judge will probably see any request as being you, using the kids to dig at your wife. Just let it go unless she is truly acting in a dangerous way with the kids.
Good luck, I hope that helps.
Forgive me for being cynical, in divorce and custody cases (which I deal with a lot) spouses tend to try to put the worst face on the other spouse.
When you say the kids want control of the visits what do you mean? If they want more visits, you can just allow that. If they want less you can't change that. You can ask the Court to change it because of inability to parent or misconduct, but most likely that is a waste of time.
Your ex has a right to visit her children too even if the teens don't want to be bothered with their mother. So the Court is not going to end visitation because the "kids" want it that way. Besides the Judge will probably see any request as being you, using the kids to dig at your wife. Just let it go unless she is truly acting in a dangerous way with the kids.
Good luck, I hope that helps.
There were too many people in the vehicle and not enough seatbelts. My ex and her husband do not believe in seatbelts. When questioned about it tonight - the husband stated that it is his constitutional right not to use seatbelts. He doesn't see what the big deal is.
As for changing the visitations - yes the kids want less time. They have expressed that the do not feel safe with their mom. She also does not want to participate in any of their school/sport activities. So when they are with her they are to do what she wants to do and nothing to do with their school/sports.
I'm just worried that she has more rights then I have and one day something bad will happen.
FYI - I have sole legal custody. She has visitations. She has never participated in their education or health. She does not take them to Dr, dentist, or eye appts.
I'm frustrated!
As for changing the visitations - yes the kids want less time. They have expressed that the do not feel safe with their mom. She also does not want to participate in any of their school/sport activities. So when they are with her they are to do what she wants to do and nothing to do with their school/sports.
I'm just worried that she has more rights then I have and one day something bad will happen.
FYI - I have sole legal custody. She has visitations. She has never participated in their education or health. She does not take them to Dr, dentist, or eye appts.
I'm frustrated!
jharris352
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I applaud your effort. Everyday I thank God my ex-and get along. Good for you.
As for the ex-and her husband, if it's their Constitutional right not to wear a seat belt, let them not wear them and put them on the kids!
Good luck, it's hard when it's constant fighting.
As for the ex-and her husband, if it's their Constitutional right not to wear a seat belt, let them not wear them and put them on the kids!
Good luck, it's hard when it's constant fighting.
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