carriem1282
New Member
- Jurisdiction
- Ohio
Hi.
When I left my husband, I didn't have a place to go. I gave him the house-- long story but I didn't feel it was right for me to stay if I was the one initiating the divorce. I stayed in various places until I found a permanent place. I didn't want to drag my children through that, so I had no choice but to let them stay with dad (he's a good dad). When I found my own place (about six months later) we were only about 10 minutes from each other so when our paper work became final, I kept the kids after school and weekends and they stayed during the weeknights so as to not disturb their schooling.
fast forward a couple of years: dad and I are both remarried to other people. we both have permanent residences BUT he moved them outside of our county.
I was under the impression he could do whatever he wanted and I had no place to object this move until I read my paperwork which says that he shall not move the children outside of our county or a county adjacent thereto without written consent from me or through the courts (if we can't agree).
because of this move, the kids are now 30 minutes from me. I can't see them everyday like I did before because that'd be too much driving and they'd be reduced to time with me in a car. and now I'm only left with weekends.
I want things to change, but he acts as though he's the sole parent of the kids and I have to ask his permission for everything. according to the paperwork, we have joint legal custody.
I'm so upset by this and sick to my stomach. I don't want to uproot the kids, but I want our time spent to be more fair and even and I want him to stop thinking he's the be all end all.
help? I'm more than willing to be workable. I just want fairness.
When I left my husband, I didn't have a place to go. I gave him the house-- long story but I didn't feel it was right for me to stay if I was the one initiating the divorce. I stayed in various places until I found a permanent place. I didn't want to drag my children through that, so I had no choice but to let them stay with dad (he's a good dad). When I found my own place (about six months later) we were only about 10 minutes from each other so when our paper work became final, I kept the kids after school and weekends and they stayed during the weeknights so as to not disturb their schooling.
fast forward a couple of years: dad and I are both remarried to other people. we both have permanent residences BUT he moved them outside of our county.
I was under the impression he could do whatever he wanted and I had no place to object this move until I read my paperwork which says that he shall not move the children outside of our county or a county adjacent thereto without written consent from me or through the courts (if we can't agree).
because of this move, the kids are now 30 minutes from me. I can't see them everyday like I did before because that'd be too much driving and they'd be reduced to time with me in a car. and now I'm only left with weekends.
I want things to change, but he acts as though he's the sole parent of the kids and I have to ask his permission for everything. according to the paperwork, we have joint legal custody.
I'm so upset by this and sick to my stomach. I don't want to uproot the kids, but I want our time spent to be more fair and even and I want him to stop thinking he's the be all end all.
help? I'm more than willing to be workable. I just want fairness.