Ok so I want to start off by saying im sorry if this is a post the same as others but i would like to explain my whole situation which is different. Sorry for the length......
When my daughter was 1 yr old the mother and me signed guardianship over to my parents due to OUR lack of being responsible parents, at the time I was 19/20 she was 21/22. We were pretty much the poster child for partying, drugs, and completely oblivious to our child. To sum up those yrs leading to the guardianship, imagine the worst relationship/people EVER!
After signing guardianship over to my parents the mother and me stayed together for about a yr if not less, when i found out that she was sleeping with a few of my cousins friends i had pretty much mentally shut myself off to her. At that time i had been working at a warehouse for about 5 months and stayed there full-time for the remaining 7 months. Where that entire time i lived with my parents and daughter waking up to get my daughter ready for the babysitter(grandmas) and heading to work, paying for babysitting and pretty much being responsible.
After the yr at the warehouse i decided to go to school about an hour and a half south of where my parents and daughter resided. Came here worked full-time and went to school full-time and visiting with my daughter every weekend. About one weekend out of the month my daughter would go to her other grandparents for visits. The mother doesn't get along with her parents AT ALL, there was a time were her step father had called the cops on the mother and had her arrested while on one of those weekends my daughter was visiting, which she told us about and the step father admitted as well to my parents that, that did happen.
My parents allowed my daughter to continue visiting with the other grand parents,against my request since they openly smoke marijuana inside their home, on the word of the step father that the mother is not allowed there anymore. At the time my daughter was involved with church activities at my family's local church and we would only as that while visiting with the other grandparents that they take her to the church on Sundays to participate in church plays for the holidays and what not. They said that they would and the church notified my patents numerous times my daughter was not there.
Thats when my parents decided to not allow my daughter to go over there anymore, out of vengeance the step father, who is power hungry, you have to know this guy, decided to fork out the money for an attorney for the mother, who 4 months prior just had arrested. So thus starts our custody battle.
After breaking it off with the mother 4 yrs ago i have done a complete 180! I have held steady employment, full-time through college, put a hault on my 2nd yr of school because of this and found a different full-time job where i have been employed at for the past 2 yrs. About 3 yrs ago i met, what is now my fiance, a yr ago we had a daughter, she is an ABA consultant for children with autism and makes amazing money and has been involved with my daughter's life since we met 3yrs ago. Basically i never imagined my life being this way. I went from partying and not caring about anything including my daughter to having a steady job, engaged to a wonderful woman and have 2 beautiful daughters.
On the other hand the mother has not such a success story. Going back to our break up she had left our daughter and moved without notice to virginia(about 5 states away) Did not stay in contact with out daughter and basically went there and kept partying. When she returned she bounced from home to home including my cousins house which she was booted from for sleeping with my cousins boyfriend on her bedroom floor. After that she did NOT keep steady employment not EVER call or see our daughter. She was also arrested for a DUI and hit and run. She got involved with a man then left him and is now married to his friend. We released guardianship 5 yrs ago, and it was not until she had an attorney that she contacted our daughter and had court granted visitation through mediation.
While married to her husband after the custody battle had started she had sent me 2 nude pictures of herself on my cell phone. Stable? I think not. And here recently we had a court hearing because she had taken our daughter on a float trip, took her life jacket off IN A CANOE ON A RIVER and of course the canoe flipped throwing our daughter WITHOUT a life jacket into the water/trapped under the boat. She admitted in front of the judge who ordered she take 80 hrs parenting courses and supervised visitation with her parents being the supervisors until completing the 80 hrs. He was going to say that she take swimming courses and that's it!!! unbelievable.
My question is that with all that said, even the fact that she said she has cheated on her husband, YEAH SHE TOLD ME THAT! What do i have to hope for come Feb, our custody hearing?
again i am sorry for the length of this and i would deeply appreciate any advise or help to help calm my nerves, i am scared to death that mothers ALWAYS win.
When my daughter was 1 yr old the mother and me signed guardianship over to my parents due to OUR lack of being responsible parents, at the time I was 19/20 she was 21/22. We were pretty much the poster child for partying, drugs, and completely oblivious to our child. To sum up those yrs leading to the guardianship, imagine the worst relationship/people EVER!
After signing guardianship over to my parents the mother and me stayed together for about a yr if not less, when i found out that she was sleeping with a few of my cousins friends i had pretty much mentally shut myself off to her. At that time i had been working at a warehouse for about 5 months and stayed there full-time for the remaining 7 months. Where that entire time i lived with my parents and daughter waking up to get my daughter ready for the babysitter(grandmas) and heading to work, paying for babysitting and pretty much being responsible.
After the yr at the warehouse i decided to go to school about an hour and a half south of where my parents and daughter resided. Came here worked full-time and went to school full-time and visiting with my daughter every weekend. About one weekend out of the month my daughter would go to her other grandparents for visits. The mother doesn't get along with her parents AT ALL, there was a time were her step father had called the cops on the mother and had her arrested while on one of those weekends my daughter was visiting, which she told us about and the step father admitted as well to my parents that, that did happen.
My parents allowed my daughter to continue visiting with the other grand parents,against my request since they openly smoke marijuana inside their home, on the word of the step father that the mother is not allowed there anymore. At the time my daughter was involved with church activities at my family's local church and we would only as that while visiting with the other grandparents that they take her to the church on Sundays to participate in church plays for the holidays and what not. They said that they would and the church notified my patents numerous times my daughter was not there.
Thats when my parents decided to not allow my daughter to go over there anymore, out of vengeance the step father, who is power hungry, you have to know this guy, decided to fork out the money for an attorney for the mother, who 4 months prior just had arrested. So thus starts our custody battle.
After breaking it off with the mother 4 yrs ago i have done a complete 180! I have held steady employment, full-time through college, put a hault on my 2nd yr of school because of this and found a different full-time job where i have been employed at for the past 2 yrs. About 3 yrs ago i met, what is now my fiance, a yr ago we had a daughter, she is an ABA consultant for children with autism and makes amazing money and has been involved with my daughter's life since we met 3yrs ago. Basically i never imagined my life being this way. I went from partying and not caring about anything including my daughter to having a steady job, engaged to a wonderful woman and have 2 beautiful daughters.
On the other hand the mother has not such a success story. Going back to our break up she had left our daughter and moved without notice to virginia(about 5 states away) Did not stay in contact with out daughter and basically went there and kept partying. When she returned she bounced from home to home including my cousins house which she was booted from for sleeping with my cousins boyfriend on her bedroom floor. After that she did NOT keep steady employment not EVER call or see our daughter. She was also arrested for a DUI and hit and run. She got involved with a man then left him and is now married to his friend. We released guardianship 5 yrs ago, and it was not until she had an attorney that she contacted our daughter and had court granted visitation through mediation.
While married to her husband after the custody battle had started she had sent me 2 nude pictures of herself on my cell phone. Stable? I think not. And here recently we had a court hearing because she had taken our daughter on a float trip, took her life jacket off IN A CANOE ON A RIVER and of course the canoe flipped throwing our daughter WITHOUT a life jacket into the water/trapped under the boat. She admitted in front of the judge who ordered she take 80 hrs parenting courses and supervised visitation with her parents being the supervisors until completing the 80 hrs. He was going to say that she take swimming courses and that's it!!! unbelievable.
My question is that with all that said, even the fact that she said she has cheated on her husband, YEAH SHE TOLD ME THAT! What do i have to hope for come Feb, our custody hearing?
again i am sorry for the length of this and i would deeply appreciate any advise or help to help calm my nerves, i am scared to death that mothers ALWAYS win.
