winnie1976
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My youngest brother , "John" just got married to a great young woman, "Mary", and are expecting their first child in April. "John" has a five year old son, "Brian" from a previous relationship, and "John", "Mary"
and "Brian" all adore each other. The only problem (and she's a MAJOR one), is "John"'s ex, ""Sara".
"Sara" left my brother when "Brian" was only 18 months old. She moved in with her mother, who lives only 5 houses down from my parents and I, where they were living at the time. For almost 3 weeks, she didn't stop by, call, write a letter,nothing, while leaving "John" to comfort his son when he cried for his mommy, leaving "John" and "Brian" extremely close.
"Sara" has since "claimed" custody of my nephew, my nephew has suffered greatly around her. He has been sexually abused by one of her boyfriends ( the father of one of her other children), neglected severely while she invites friends over to "party"with very disreputable people, been subjected to inappropriate movies and music, does not receive discipline from his mother, has had brand new clothes (given to him by my brother and his wife) taken from him by hismom to give to her sister ( for her own kids), denied much needed therapy that his preschool teachers have highly stressed, and denied more attention from his father ("Sara" only allows my brother to have him every other weekend and every Wednesday night , unless it suits her purposes.
A few days ago, my brother found out that "Sara" is going to have my nephew circumcised next week while having his adnoids removed. This has been a bone of contention between them for almost two years, but was put off because a doctor told "Sara" that because of another condition, they couldn't do the circumcision safely until "Brian" was at least 8 years old.
I don't know what to do to help my brother or my nephew. I've told my brother that when he can afford to do it (that's the only reason he's not been able to file for custody), that he needs to file for sole custody. He doesn't want to deny his son the chance to be with his mother or his little sisters; I told him that sole custody would mean that he would have greater input as to the kind of environment "Sara" would provide for "Brian".
What can I do to help my brother? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
and "Brian" all adore each other. The only problem (and she's a MAJOR one), is "John"'s ex, ""Sara".
"Sara" left my brother when "Brian" was only 18 months old. She moved in with her mother, who lives only 5 houses down from my parents and I, where they were living at the time. For almost 3 weeks, she didn't stop by, call, write a letter,nothing, while leaving "John" to comfort his son when he cried for his mommy, leaving "John" and "Brian" extremely close.
"Sara" has since "claimed" custody of my nephew, my nephew has suffered greatly around her. He has been sexually abused by one of her boyfriends ( the father of one of her other children), neglected severely while she invites friends over to "party"with very disreputable people, been subjected to inappropriate movies and music, does not receive discipline from his mother, has had brand new clothes (given to him by my brother and his wife) taken from him by hismom to give to her sister ( for her own kids), denied much needed therapy that his preschool teachers have highly stressed, and denied more attention from his father ("Sara" only allows my brother to have him every other weekend and every Wednesday night , unless it suits her purposes.
A few days ago, my brother found out that "Sara" is going to have my nephew circumcised next week while having his adnoids removed. This has been a bone of contention between them for almost two years, but was put off because a doctor told "Sara" that because of another condition, they couldn't do the circumcision safely until "Brian" was at least 8 years old.
I don't know what to do to help my brother or my nephew. I've told my brother that when he can afford to do it (that's the only reason he's not been able to file for custody), that he needs to file for sole custody. He doesn't want to deny his son the chance to be with his mother or his little sisters; I told him that sole custody would mean that he would have greater input as to the kind of environment "Sara" would provide for "Brian".
What can I do to help my brother? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
