Please give me some Advice.
Hello. I am a mother of 3 children ages 2,3 and 4. In August, my husband abused me in front of my children. Now I didn't go to the hospital because I thought that would be too much but the police officer took a picture of the damage he did to me. Now he wasn't an all the time abuser this was something that would happen about 2x a year but last time was enough. It got serious enough I was concerned for all of our lives. Well they let him back in 4 days later and when we went to court because I refused to drop charges they didn't do anything. Just told him if anything like this happened in the next two years that he gets jail time. It didn't stop him from basically holding us hostage. I wasn't allowed to go grocery shopping unless I left the kids with him which i wasn't comfortable with. So at least 3 times after the court date he trapped us in the only room that locked in the house. The police informed me unless he hit me they can't do anything and on the third time told me if I called them about it again they would call D.S.S. to have the children removed. I felt like they let me down. No longer feeling safe in my home he and I agreed I was going to move to my parents for what he thought would be a couple months. I tried to get out the weekend before but he halted all of those efforts. He now understands that I no longer can be married to an abuser and was getting more concerned for my kids. He knows we are separated and has made no effort to see the kids. He barely made an effort to call THEM but calls me all the time and its getting to feel a bit harassing. I can't afford a lawyer right now but I had two questions for you. I am in Domestic Violence counseling and have a social worker following up on the kids. Here are the questions I pose:
What rights do I have?
Should I get a protective order since he keeps threatening to come get the kids? (After telling me he wants to sign over his parental rights and if I didn't hurry he would make our lives a living hell. Now he says he wants custody. This back and forth has been going on since December)
Is there a suggestion as to what I can do here?
Even though we are separated I still feel emotionally battered. He calls to tell me what a bad mom i am, tells me I owe him money for the carseat I had to buy my 4 year old because he destroyed her other one. Someone please give me some advice. I was married for almost 4 years and just want my children and I to stay safe.
Hello. I am a mother of 3 children ages 2,3 and 4. In August, my husband abused me in front of my children. Now I didn't go to the hospital because I thought that would be too much but the police officer took a picture of the damage he did to me. Now he wasn't an all the time abuser this was something that would happen about 2x a year but last time was enough. It got serious enough I was concerned for all of our lives. Well they let him back in 4 days later and when we went to court because I refused to drop charges they didn't do anything. Just told him if anything like this happened in the next two years that he gets jail time. It didn't stop him from basically holding us hostage. I wasn't allowed to go grocery shopping unless I left the kids with him which i wasn't comfortable with. So at least 3 times after the court date he trapped us in the only room that locked in the house. The police informed me unless he hit me they can't do anything and on the third time told me if I called them about it again they would call D.S.S. to have the children removed. I felt like they let me down. No longer feeling safe in my home he and I agreed I was going to move to my parents for what he thought would be a couple months. I tried to get out the weekend before but he halted all of those efforts. He now understands that I no longer can be married to an abuser and was getting more concerned for my kids. He knows we are separated and has made no effort to see the kids. He barely made an effort to call THEM but calls me all the time and its getting to feel a bit harassing. I can't afford a lawyer right now but I had two questions for you. I am in Domestic Violence counseling and have a social worker following up on the kids. Here are the questions I pose:
What rights do I have?
Should I get a protective order since he keeps threatening to come get the kids? (After telling me he wants to sign over his parental rights and if I didn't hurry he would make our lives a living hell. Now he says he wants custody. This back and forth has been going on since December)
Is there a suggestion as to what I can do here?
Even though we are separated I still feel emotionally battered. He calls to tell me what a bad mom i am, tells me I owe him money for the carseat I had to buy my 4 year old because he destroyed her other one. Someone please give me some advice. I was married for almost 4 years and just want my children and I to stay safe.
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