I have a 13 yo daughter who will be 14 in a few months. Her dad and I have court orders for the standard visitation, we were never married. We have followed those orders until a few years ago, possibly 4 years. SHe would see him and they would visit on the phone once or twice a week- I would say they had a pretty good relationship. He is married and has 3 other girls. The last time he saw our daughter for more than 20 minutes was in August. We live approx. 75 miles apart and he hasn't made one effort to come adn see her. He made 2 of her basketball games that he saw her for maybe 20 minutes. He and his wife will call and ask her if she would like to come see them and she tells them she has plans or is busy. He has always left it at that. SHe was supposed to go see them at Christmas but got a Text message from her step mom telling her that she couldn't stay with them if she came. Her dad didn't know anything about this. From that point on she hasn't felt comfortable in going to see her dad, he hasn't pushed the issue nor has he MADE any effort to come see her at all. That is until Sunday he text my daughter and told her that she WOULD be at every visitation, every Holiday that is is and one month in the summer. She told him she would not and he couldn't make her. She is very upset and has told him the reasons why. I have never kept her dad from her and I have encouraged her to see him. She gets physically ill when she has to go. Vomiting, diarhea and crying. She does want to see her dad but she doesn't want to be forced to go if she doesn't want to. I hear many different things about when the child gets to a certain age they can tell the other parent they don't want to go and it not be something that needs to be taken to court. I do believe she needs to see her dad and have that relationship but there is something that mkes her not want to go and makes her sick! What do I do???? Can she tell him NO and he still make her go? Like physically put her in the car?